"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The coldest rejection

Phoenix-09

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Now I don't know about you, but the worst kind of rejection is when they don't even reject you. They just stop talking to you.

This recently happened to me and it's practically the one thing in the world that most makes me want to slam my head into a wall repeating "I am such a F#*@ING IDIOT"

Does anybody else get this?

~Phoenix
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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oakraiderz2

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No. Shut up. Get some confidence.
 

john_1234

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I agree with you Noob. I've literally done hundreds of approaches. The worst rejection I ever had was when I approached this girl at a bar. She did not acknowledge me. She just completely ignored me as if I was a ghost. Had she been harsh, like, "As if! Go away creep!" I seriously could brush that off easily. But in this situation, it really annoyed me big time to be treated that way... as if I was some bum on the street that most people ignore.
 

The Comeback Kid

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Phoenix - same thing happened to me near the beginning of the school year.

Some chick was giving me many signs that she "liked" me (some were obvious), but as I eventually realized, she is just a huge tease and an attention wh*re (I'm not just saying that - she really is).

Anyway, feeling 110% sure I've got myself a gf, I asked her out (not directly but enough so she gets the point). She says YES to this and told me to see her after school. So, I do that, I'm ready to hammer out date details and she said that she has a busy week w/ volleyball (4 matches in 7 days), but after that is fine. Unfortunately, she also blocked my screenname, deleted me as her "friend" on MySpace and started avoiding me in the halls (so it looked obvious). Also, I was walking to my car after school and she hides behind the cars so I can't see her (I considered backing up into her, but decided not to...j/k :D ). We haven't talked ever since, and if she tries talking to me again w/o some sort of apology/reason for shielding herself from me...payback time! :p :p :p
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think the moral of the story is clear, stop sarging at school. If you have a car and a couple bucks, theres plenty of places to go within driving distance. Ideally we'd all just pick up on girls at school while ace'n our finals, but you've got to start somewhere.

If you get a consistent stream of rejections at school, it's difficult to pull your reputation out of the gutter. If you get blown off at some coffee shop or a book store where you don't know the girl, what's the big deal?

Get out and build up your confidence with people you won't have to deal with on a daily basis, then come back to school as a mPUA and lay out the game.


Goodluck
 

oakraiderz2

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Originally posted by socialsecurity
I think the moral of the story is clear, stop sarging at school. If you have a car and a couple bucks, theres plenty of places to go within driving distance. Ideally we'd all just pick up on girls at school while ace'n our finals, but you've got to start somewhere.

If you get a consistent stream of rejections at school, it's difficult to pull your reputation out of the gutter. If you get blown off at some coffee shop or a book store where you don't know the girl, what's the big deal?

Pretty sure he didnt even mention school buddy. But the second paragraph has a rather vaild point.
 

08aisaac

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Ahhh, Java.
This is true. Girls are alot more open, if they don't go to your school, plus you never have to talk to them, if you don't want to.
The rejection does suck. For some reason, that sort happens with the popular preppy freshman that are dating seniors. They think their better than you *lol*. So just avoid those *****'s. Go for real chicks.
 

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Hahaha okay okay, I'll admit I acted like a wussy with this post. Damn. Way to make a first impression on a forum.

Anyways, thanks for the tips and the replies.

I'll be a lot less spineless from now on.

~Phoenix
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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