the cold shoulder. brrrrrr

[Rint]

U all know these girls. The ones who when you walk up to give u the cold shoulder like they want nothing to do with u. Or some of you might know the bipolar girl who wants to fondle your junk, then the next day wants them in her trophy case(a bit exageratted). I just wanna know how do u deal with girls? Get past them giving u attitude to them warming up to u. I've seen it done, and i wanna know their secret.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

EDIT: Stay away from bipolar girls. If a girl gives you a cold shoulder; she is not interested. To help getting girls to warm up to you. Be confident, postive attituted, smile, and good body language when approaching

 

[Stuntmann]

I've got cold shoulder just this past Saturday, from a girl around your age. Dressed slvtty and coming from the beach, pretending to be sick and getting attention from every man on her way. Except me, I rolled on my bike past her, without even looking at her. Then she gives me cold shoulder on purpose as she walks close by me and talks to someone else in the opposite direction.


How to deal with them?


Ignore them. They are attention getters. Deny what they crave. Since they are attracted to what they can't have, they'll be back for it, and this time dance around to get it. (though don't give it to them, play them)

 

[CanuckinSK]

Ignore them. They are attention getters. Deny what they crave. Since they are attracted to what they can't have, they'll be back for it, and this time dance around to get it. (though don't give it to them, play them)

While I agree that ignoring them is the standard response, I really wouldn't expect them to come back preening for your attention. Most women are not attracted to arrogant a$$holes. I'm not saying you are actually an AA, but if you are PERCEIVED in her eyes to be one, then good luck.

I know I'm perceived that way all the time, if I don't smile or look at a woman. I think you could probably get away with ignoring them if your body langauge still gave indications of being 'approachable'. Just my two cents...

 

[Stuntmann]

Hmm. No doubt, if you're unattractive she won't ever send you the IOIs on purpose. By unattractive I don't mean ugly. I mean, sensual EC, proper alpha male body language, alpha male everything to an extent. Just you projecting you're the man.


Ignoring means giving her same attention as you'd give to an old shrunk lady.


It does not mean freeze up around them, or avoid contact with them. Because that way you live in their world. That's already feeding them attention by its virtue. Instead, they should be perceived as something unpleasant that you aren't letting inside your world.


Exactly same as you'd walk past a fat chick, or a chick with down syndrome. This can't be faked. It's something you can do easily though, if instead of their beauty you focus on the beauty or ugliness of their actions, their body language, their motivations. Get turned on/turned off through what's underneath.


You lower their value this way. They can sense that. While your value is high, they will flock to you. Often to sh1t test you and possibly fail you, so that they can validate them selfs. That's another reason not to make anything more than an fbuddy out of women like that, and even that must be played out right.