No guy I know has ever said it. I may sound like a loser to some over this but I still stand by my thoughts on it, no one will ever change my mind. It’s like the friendzone dressed up in some fancy name.....like when the government calls a tax a “fee”. No, it’s a tax. Just like this is an insulting way to tell a guy he’s friendzoned. You’re never going to convince me that men and women can be friends and this is one of many examples why.
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The cognitive dissonance of women is astounding
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No, you’re right, I had that “like a brother” crap thrown at me when I was 15 and I never forgot how worthless it made me feel. What’s worse is the girl that said it knew me for A YEAR. We saw each other in school and maybe hungout once a week outside of school. When I hear this “like family” or “like a brother” crap I get PTSD. I know exactly what the guy must be feeling because I’ve been there and dont want that happening to other men. Women say don’t fvck zone us!” well dont family zone us. I’ve had it happen to me once and it’s never happened to me again, even in relationships I won’t get too close to a girl emotionally now because of my past dealing with that crap. Why can’t being friends or best friends be enough? Leave it at those if you want to friendzone a guy.
mrgoodstuff
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A gay lol. Just joking. They have the right to fvck who they want. I guess that response is the universe letting us know we need up our game and meet more ladies.
Well what baffled me is I got brother zoned hard and yet I had many other options of women. It only happened once and had never happened again, I’ve been friendzoned but not like that. I dont think I changed anything up drastically about myself, but maybe I did after that. Maybe it was just the girl and her insecurities, I dunno. It didn’t become a pattern though thank God.
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If you hear the word "friends" or "brother" from a girl, the best response is simply never speak to her again. The quicker you make a move, the easier this is to do. Don't create a history with women that haven't proven their worth yet.
The girl who says 'like a family' is just giving a heads up....to him, people around him etc.
There's another thread where a guy is being pressured to date a coworker. He should use the line, " but she's like family".
It might help. I don't know if it works for guys to clearly state intentions(lack of) or not.
It seems like it is still a respectful and appreciative thing to say to be clear about intentions with communicating with the opposite sex you're not interested in 'that way'
Maybe its not with certain male personalities.
How would a girl know? The guy its said to, would ideally retort immediately he doesn't like being called that, like Robert28 did.
That's authentic.
There's another thread where a guy is being pressured to date a coworker. He should use the line, " but she's like family".
It might help. I don't know if it works for guys to clearly state intentions(lack of) or not.
It seems like it is still a respectful and appreciative thing to say to be clear about intentions with communicating with the opposite sex you're not interested in 'that way'
Maybe its not with certain male personalities.
How would a girl know? The guy its said to, would ideally retort immediately he doesn't like being called that, like Robert28 did.
That's authentic.
But see when I speak up about not liking being called that, I got shamed by not only women but some men too. I got called immature and all, so why would a guy ever speak up about something he didn’t like when he knows he’s going to get jumped on? And people say “make your intentions clear!”, and when a guy does it’s “oh all you want is sex, get away fvck boi!”. I get told I’m overreacting but I’m not, I have a right now to want to be referred to as that stuff. Some might call it immature but others see where I’m coming from.The girl who says 'like a family' is just giving a heads up....to him, people around him etc.
There's another thread where a guy is being pressured to date a coworker. He should use the line, " but she's like family".
It might help. I don't know if it works for guys to clearly state intentions(lack of) or not.
It seems like it is still a respectful and appreciative thing to say to be clear about intentions with communicating with the opposite sex you're not interested in 'that way'
Maybe its not with certain male personalities.
How would a girl know? The guy its said to, would ideally retort immediately he doesn't like being called that, like Robert28 did.
That's authentic.
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Chick: Logicllefty, you are like family!
Logicallefty: Ok We don’t have to tell anyone when we commit incest. We can keep it “in the family”
Smart azz comments aside, I’ve had lots of success playing along with the initial friend card. You act like all you want from them is friendship as well, then hit them at some vulnerable moment for the lay. Play the game!
Logicallefty: Ok We don’t have to tell anyone when we commit incest. We can keep it “in the family”
Smart azz comments aside, I’ve had lots of success playing along with the initial friend card. You act like all you want from them is friendship as well, then hit them at some vulnerable moment for the lay. Play the game!
The guy can’t win then either. If he ghosts it’ll be “we were friends for so long and he just up and threw me away like I was nothing, I dont know why. Poor pitiful me”. I’ve made moves early, and I’ve still been friendzoned. The girl I mentioned when I was 15, we kissed many times and I still got family zoned lol
I’ve tried that, they just cringe like “ewww”. Lol They see me with other girls better looking than them so they know I’m not a creep and can get other women.
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The girl who says 'like a family' is just giving a heads up....to him, people around him etc.
There's another thread where a guy is being pressured to date a coworker. He should use the line, " but she's like family".
It might help. I don't know if it works for guys to clearly state intentions(lack of) or not.
It seems like it is still a respectful and appreciative thing to say to be clear about intentions with communicating with the opposite sex you're not interested in 'that way'
Maybe its not with certain male personalities.
How would a girl know? The guy its said to, would ideally retort immediately he doesn't like being called that, like Robert28 did.
That's authentic.
Men should make a move quickly to avoid these situations in the first place.The girl who says 'like a family' is just giving a heads up....to him, people around him etc.
There's another thread where a guy is being pressured to date a coworker. He should use the line, " but she's like family".
It might help. I don't know if it works for guys to clearly state intentions(lack of) or not.
It seems like it is still a respectful and appreciative thing to say to be clear about intentions with communicating with the opposite sex you're not interested in 'that way'
Maybe its not with certain male personalities.
How would a girl know? The guy its said to, would ideally retort immediately he doesn't like being called that, like Robert28 did.
That's authentic.
"Like family" is just a weasel word way of saying "I don't find you attractive". I think most men would prefer being told the truth rather than being lied to.
When will guys learn that it's pointless to argue with women.
Just agree and amplify to fvck them and if they carry on conversations and conform to your thought processes and beliefs, then think about putting them in the LTR potential category. Otherwise, your energy is better spent elsewhere and it will also slow down your aging process too.
All women start off as plates unless proven otherwise. Minimal energy, stress, inconvenience, investment unless they prove otherwise.
Just agree and amplify to fvck them and if they carry on conversations and conform to your thought processes and beliefs, then think about putting them in the LTR potential category. Otherwise, your energy is better spent elsewhere and it will also slow down your aging process too.
All women start off as plates unless proven otherwise. Minimal energy, stress, inconvenience, investment unless they prove otherwise.
I think that’s my biggest complaint. It’s like they’re giving you a compliment while kicking you in the balls at the same time.
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I totally get what you are saying. But I don't think that (in most cases) they are purposely using it as an "in your face" put-down or neg.
When a chick says to a guy, "You're like a brother to me," I think she pretty much means that at face value. It means it's a guy she is super comfortable with but doesn't want to hook up with. I don't think it's usually intended as an insult in that context (even though it understandably can be.)
Now if she's speaking to OTHER females, then it might be a "coded message" or "dog whistle" of sorts. "Date Bob? Nah, he's like a brother to me." In that case, she's using a "shorthand/girl_code" to convey to her gfs that she has zero physical attraction to him and/or he's a cool person with subpar looks.
But I know what they mean even if they don’t. Why can’t just say friends and leave it at that? You can be friends and feel like you’re super close to someone, you don’t have to make it weird by telling them “you’re like a brother to me”. Women know when a guy likes them and is attracted to them, they just want to weird you out when they say that and then you’re backed into a corner. If you ghost her you’ll look like the bad guy for “throwing away a long time friendship when she didn’t do anything. She’s the poor victim” but if you stay you have to be around a girl that thinks you’re ugly and wants to be close to you. It’s weird and it’s hurtful. I want no part of anything like that.
It's only a kick to the balls if you let it be. It IS a sign that maybe you didn't position yourself right. But you have a wide range of choices for how you comport yourself after you hear a thing like this. What they expect you to do is either qualify yourself or reject yourself. Instead, laugh it off (she's a silly little girl after all) and disqualify yourself.
Women float from moment to moment and they have no ironclad rules. Like I said, stop taking them so seriously. You're astounded by their cognitive dissonance because you're taking their words at 100% face value. They have value in the moment, maybe, but that's it.
No you’re right. The girl that told me that expected me to spend holidays with her and **** like that. Why the hell would I? In all honesty it made me not want to be around her because it made me uncomfortable. I mean, yeah I positioned myself to be in that spot somehow but how come no other girl has ever done that to me? Usually you have to make a mistake several times before you realize it’s something you did, but like I said, it never happened again and I don’t think I made any drastic changes about myself or the way I acted. Now, if 4 girls in a row were all like “you’re like family to me” then I would KNOW I was doing something wrong, but it was just that one time and it scarred me. It’s something I can’t laugh off and it’s affected me from getting close to women on an emotional level no matter what. Hell I won’t even meet a girls parents and family now unless we are sleeping together because I’m afraid of being family zoned again.
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I’ve been called the “brother” many times and still do. I’ve known all along EXACTLY what it means, but I typically haven’t taken it personally.
But I do think it reinforces the importance of looks. And it proves that there is nothing significantly wrong with my personality.
But I fully understand your point Robert. An argument can be made that it’s an insult. It is an arguable point.
But I do think it reinforces the importance of looks. And it proves that there is nothing significantly wrong with my personality.
But I fully understand your point Robert. An argument can be made that it’s an insult. It is an arguable point.
God if I’d been called that many times I would probably swear off women forever. One time was enough for me. I just refuse to be friends with women because if this stuff, they have to make it weird. Truth be told I dint get along with my family, if that’s how they want to be treated then that’s fine by me.lol
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I think it has a lot to do with social media and entitlement (false sense). Social media might be the downfall of modern society. There's a lot of PC in everything nowadays. Don't forget about hive mentality and getting the approval from all here friends. It's a strange world these days.
