Jack Wealthy
Master Don Juan
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This seems a bit racist to me.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Nope. I don't dislike them because of their race, they're all my friends. But if I'm going to senior week to drink and bang for a whole 7 days I don't think they will be the best company.Jack Wealthy said:This seems a bit racist to me.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I feel like I'm reading the same **** over and over to be completely honest.BPH said:3/13/12
Today was decent.
Nothing much really went on at school, still getting IOIs from HB Katie. I feel like I'm probably in the friendzone with her, not that I really care.
Practice was pretty bad for me today. I was really screwing up as far as hitting, and started getting frustrated at the odd rotation. Was pretty glad when it was over.
Went to the shopping plaza up the street from me to get some ice cream. The weather was nice and I just started to notice that this may be a good place to do some approaches, after seeing quite a few cuties roaming about.
I'm having problems with senior week again. I called the people that listed the house and they told me they don't rent to high schoolers. I even made up a little story that we could get a 20something year old to sign for the house and would stay with us. They still declined...not sure if I should pursue this and lie or what...but if this house is a lost cause I'm pretty much back to square one...
That's about it for now, peace. Leave me stuff to read guys, haven't heard from anyone in a while.
Hahaha yeah he knows its easy, read his journal. BPH got an f-close off a cold approach.smithersonb11 said:Go out, cold approach at the mall or something. It's actually really easy, especially if you're good looking.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I just like being direct when I show my interest.NorwegianDJ said:I do have to say that I facepalmed when you said 'cutie' and 'sexy'. It was good apart from that, maybe you should've just sent her a short text after she apologized. You're too easy to get, especially over text. You can still be sexual without giving up your challenge.
Did you read the bits about you? I gotta know if I would be able to come over on Saturday, also gonna need stuff like your number and address so I can better arrange this.LearningSlowly said:Yeah, but I agree with NDJ here. Go read some of Jaedon's texting, his stuff is super sexual and its gold. I don't think he says "sexy" much, but he's definitely being sexy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.