"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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the cause of your insecurities!

check_mate_kid_uk

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lies! thats what it is, exageration. You think, im stuck here at home i dont go out every day like every one else does.

I dont do this and that, every one is always better then me, they get more girls blah blah blah oyu might find yourslef exagerating your own figures to people to make yourself look up to par with the rest.

Fact is people ussualy make themselves look better hten they really are, you included! BUt deep down you knwo you are not quite as good as you say you are, but as far as your concerned every one else is, so here you are pretending ot belike them knowing you are not thinking why am i insecure.

Fact is most people put up a show sont think just because it seems they are, that they really do have such an exciting life.

and when people say hagnign out with freinds that can mena playing on the playstation, iv been at some crap partys recently, people plaing on games consel and talking on msn im thinking, im not really missing a lot if i hadnt come.

So remember when eveyone else looks better then you, really there probably not.

on a side not, i often thought why am i not hangout with people like others do, this year i aranged iwht people rather htne waiting for others to arange, and i been out most days having a blast this summer. Once i aranged stuff, people arnage more things with me and dont think i arnaged huge things just meeting up with a few freinds.

But as they say to have a freind you got to be a freind. Its so true, never forget it, i thought oh thats BS but it is so dam true, i cant emphasize that enough, to have a freind you got to be a freind!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Jariel

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You raise a very good point indeed. I used to buy into all this lying and exaggaration and think I was being left behind. I'd hear my mates talk about sleeping with dozens of hot women and wonder why it was so much harder for me. Was I ugly? Was I too scared to approach? Was it my personality?

Then I started to see the truth. These "dozens of hot women" were more like 2 or 3 average to ugly girls who only slept with these guys because they were drunk, desperate and easy.

It has a lot to do with peer pressure (which I see on this board too) where guys feel they need to live upto other people's standards, prove themselves and even compete with them...instead of just being contented with themselves and their own standards. It's like taking up smoking just to fit in with the cool kids at school.

However, at the heart of it all, people like this are just seeking acceptance and I guess we should be flattered that they are trying to qualify themselves to us. :)
 
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