"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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JJ Cool L

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I know you guys might think this is a stupid question and that I should just read the DJ Bible. Sorry, but maybe it's a lot easier for me to just post this message.

So, how should I start a conversation with a girl who sits near me at the school cafeteria? I was thinking I should just give her some eye contact and say, "hi". I can continue the conversation from there, easily but I just don't know how to initiate the communication.

Also, should I not sit beside hot girls who are with their friends there too?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Kraken

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A confident smile, eye contact, and a 'Hi, I'm so and so' is simple yet effective.

You could also say 'mind if I sit here?', if you want to use a practical situational opener for a highschool caf.
 

Craig Reeves

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I know you guys might think this is a stupid question and that I should just read the DJ Bible. Sorry, but maybe it's a lot easier for me to just post this message.
It's alright, really. We're here to help (at least that's what I've dedicated the rest of my time here to solely doing cuz I'm sick and damn tired of some of these AFC *******s that think they know every damn thing).

So, how should I start a conversation with a girl who sits near me at the school cafeteria?
The best way to greet and start a conversation with a girl is to do it the exact same way as if you were to start a conversation up with a GUY you don't know. Just CLEAR YOUR MIND, go up there, smile and say "Hey, what's up?".

I was thinking I should just give her some eye contact and say, "hi". I can continue the conversation from there, easily but I just don't know how to initiate the communication.
Sure, that'll work. You've got it. And the smile and eye contact'll work great.

Also, should I not sit beside hot girls who are with their friends there too?
If you find yourself a little shaken up by really attractive girls (the more there are at a time, the more intimidating), try practicing on your approach on some girls that you do not find as attractive, then go BACK to the really attractive ones....that should help.

Eventually, however, you will no longer be intimidated by girls no matter how attractive they are.

Good Luck, and don't be afraid to ask questions.....as far as I'm concerned...there's no such thing as a stupid questions.
 

California Love

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The cafeteria isnt the best place to pick up a chick, but if shes physically attracted to you, she'll definitely appreciate you going up to her. Don't approach her when too many of her friends around (4 or less is fine), because its much more intimidating, and they might cause complications. When she has about 2 friends around, its perfect. Act confident, and you might get these chicks hooked on you also. Now you've not only got her attention, you've got some nice female competition.
 
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