"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The Bus Driver

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Hey fellow DJs, many of you would know about my plans on becoming more social, overall. That means going around feeling like gold and speaking to strangers, brightening up their days and mine as well.

I've made great progress, a month ago I'd never have seen myself being so open and natural at smiling/saying hi. People I meet often now obviously recognize me, but it rarely goes beyond a "Hi" or "How did your day go" type of shallow talk.

Perhaps it just isn't convenient(at work, rushing off somewhere etc.), but I was wondering if you smooth social players can teach me how to break this deadlock. How can I get to know strangers that flow through my daily life and engage in meaning conversation with them?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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be genuinely interested is all, you might need to "pry" a little but if someone doesn't open up to you, you can either 1) talk about urself first instead (i don't really like doing this for too long though) or 2) forget about them and move on to someone else (if a "stranger" doesn't feel like talking to you then okay, that's justified, just gonna have to move on then, np)

Usually you can observe people's mannerisms and tell from those who'll be receptive to talking with you, so i reccomend that first.

Also I'm curious why you named this thread bus driver? As it turns out, bus drivers are usually receptive, though i don't talk to them all the time I almost always see someone who's at the front of the bus talking to them. Yesterday there was one conversation that was based solely on this 45 yo (MILF status) puerto rican woman's relationships and views on it, really interesting stuff, the same day there was another 22~ girl who kept on talking about god and religion, let's just say that was a conversation i didn't feel like getting into with them but it sure was hella funny to watch!
 
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