She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
mrRuckus said:Hi i'm a 14 year old girl and roll my eyes at people.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Thanks really appreciate it. People fail to realize you can't stick people on a cookie cutter this or that. You just have to get in the gym and find what works best for you and speak with other experienced lifters who are also training seriously.Drum&Bass said:Hey whats up, I've been following your posts for awhile now and I gotta admit, I'm a fan. You do things that a few sheeps on this forum fail to understand.
You think for yourself and your not afraid to challenge the status quo.
Its people like you who learn the fastest and over time will have the most to benefit and contribute. keep it up.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Thanks brother!ATP said:Meh, the vid doesn't work for me. My buddy listens to them though and he says they are good.![]()
Nice workout m8, a lot of volume, I bet your chest/tris was pretty dead after that one.
Yeah he was way ahead of everyone. Everything he did was so precise. I know he used steroids and all but to see where he got his small frame to his peak olympia physique. Was just shocking.ATP said:Sweet, never tried one of those. Looks like you might be choking yourself if you do it with a front squat though considering the safety squat addon for the neck. But who knows, it might be better than a normal bar... it feels like I'm chokign myself with it anyway ^^
Yeah, I'm from Europe so might be cause of that. The vid with Yates was awesome though, he is one of the few bodybuilders I really respect. I mean you can tell he knows his **** when he is talking and he doesn't lift with his ego either. I don't know if you've seen "blood and guts", his training vid but after watching it I saw him in an entirly different way.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Diet is pretty simple I shoot for 1.5-2 grams X BW in protein. Major staples for me are beef (shoot for a lb a day or more), whey protein shakes (take in at least 100-125 around workouts) whole eggs/eggwhites(6-12 a day), sometimes chicken (hate that **** though, luv mah beef!) Turkey Bacon.EFFORT said:Are you doing this routine with the bodybuilder guys you talk about or is this something you do on your own? If the bodybuilders are your training partners then keep on with it and stick with them. If its just you solo I would switch it over to a standard 2day DC split (Once in that frame work specific cool "tricks" can be pulled out for lat width,back-thickness etc) . What does your diet look like?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.