You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
mrRuckus said:Hi i'm a 14 year old girl and roll my eyes at people.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Thanks really appreciate it. People fail to realize you can't stick people on a cookie cutter this or that. You just have to get in the gym and find what works best for you and speak with other experienced lifters who are also training seriously.Drum&Bass said:Hey whats up, I've been following your posts for awhile now and I gotta admit, I'm a fan. You do things that a few sheeps on this forum fail to understand.
You think for yourself and your not afraid to challenge the status quo.
Its people like you who learn the fastest and over time will have the most to benefit and contribute. keep it up.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Thanks brother!ATP said:Meh, the vid doesn't work for me. My buddy listens to them though and he says they are good.![]()
Nice workout m8, a lot of volume, I bet your chest/tris was pretty dead after that one.
Yeah he was way ahead of everyone. Everything he did was so precise. I know he used steroids and all but to see where he got his small frame to his peak olympia physique. Was just shocking.ATP said:Sweet, never tried one of those. Looks like you might be choking yourself if you do it with a front squat though considering the safety squat addon for the neck. But who knows, it might be better than a normal bar... it feels like I'm chokign myself with it anyway ^^
Yeah, I'm from Europe so might be cause of that. The vid with Yates was awesome though, he is one of the few bodybuilders I really respect. I mean you can tell he knows his **** when he is talking and he doesn't lift with his ego either. I don't know if you've seen "blood and guts", his training vid but after watching it I saw him in an entirly different way.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Diet is pretty simple I shoot for 1.5-2 grams X BW in protein. Major staples for me are beef (shoot for a lb a day or more), whey protein shakes (take in at least 100-125 around workouts) whole eggs/eggwhites(6-12 a day), sometimes chicken (hate that **** though, luv mah beef!) Turkey Bacon.EFFORT said:Are you doing this routine with the bodybuilder guys you talk about or is this something you do on your own? If the bodybuilders are your training partners then keep on with it and stick with them. If its just you solo I would switch it over to a standard 2day DC split (Once in that frame work specific cool "tricks" can be pulled out for lat width,back-thickness etc) . What does your diet look like?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.