The break up

[Karaage-]

Hi guys,

So a bit of background. I was dating this woman for 3 years.
Long story short she went overseas - and that's when trouble started. She began to become more distant. Would talk to me but it just didn't feel the same.
Eventually she extended her trip without me knowing and that led to me losing my marbles. I admit I got angry, and emotionally I broke it off.

She's messaged me since, throughout the 8 months we have been broken up, met up here and there and even hooked up.
But it's all that it has been, just hooking up.

I miss her, I want to be with her. She tells me the same but nothing ever comes out of it.

We talk every week. Small talk but she's always telling me she misses me.
Until I found an instagram comment from her on some guys picture I called her out on it and she said it was nothing.

Although I know her well enough.

So it ended up her telling me to fvck off. I reacted saying all good i have my eye on someone else anyway, And that she also has her eye on someone. else.
That broke me.
Cos of what I've seen on instagram.

I want her back so bad.
She knows this but I've handled it all wrong.

Where to from here. I'm struggling.
She would tell me she misses me now she's telling me to fvck off

 

[Glassguy]

"I want her back so bad.....she knows this"

"I miss her, want to be with her....she tells me the same but nothing ever comes of it"

Dude- get your head out of your @ss. She has you right at her fingertips whenever she wants you. Why would she invest in getting something she already has????

This is easy- instead of her pulling away and you chasing her, flip the script.

From this point forward, you are not allowed to initiate ANY form of contact with her. You are also NOT allowed to answer any phone calls from her.

If she texts you, you ARE allowed to give her 1-4 word responses AFTER waiting a MINIMUM of 2 hrs from her initial text.

Her: "Hey did you go out Friday night?"
You (2 hours later)" Yeah
Her: What did you do?
You (2 hours later): Met up with some people
This is the very important thing.....at some point she is going to ask you why you are acting short and weird with her.

You are going to tell her: "I am interested in several other people and we are now just friends. I am not sure what you expect from me"
At that point she will get irritated and mad. This is good. You have spiked her emotions.

Or she will block you. That is good too because you wont sit around texting her like you have been.

Go find other women dude. And if this chick tries to come back around tell her that you will only "fvck her occasionally" because thats all she is good for to you now.

 

[lizardking82]

@Glassguy this is too big a of a redpill for him to swallow right now. He's like, on the extremes of blue pill LOL

OP, you need to detach from this situation and take some time for yourself. You are way too much into it.

 

[Karaage-]

I needed to be told this.

I've been suppressing. Not talking to mates about how I actually feel.

I need the change.
Thank you @Glassguy

Mindset right now is all fvcked up

 

[Dingo]

Go to the top of the page.... "The No Contact Challenge"....

Read it.... Learn it... Live it.

You have already been replaced.... She is already ****ing my someone else... Deep down you already know this.

Time to move on and heal. It's gonna hurt a whole lot but you will survive....

 

[Glassguy]

Oh....and another thing....stop following her on ALL social media RIGHT NOW.

Just unfriend her/unfollow her. Do it this minute. Why do you want to see sh!t that will upset you?

Again, if she asks you WHY you unfollowed her, just tell her you are interested in several other people and its not really appropriate to follow her anymore since you're talking to several other people.

Be a d!ck dude. But do it when she ASKS for it. Dont go out of your way to be a d!ck. Withdraw ALL attention.

Get off her social media circle NOW.

 

[Karaage-]

Done

 

[Glassguy]

Good for you. There are billions of other women on this earth. Do not waste another second on this one unless she is coming over to take a load on her face. And even then, kick her @ss out when you're done.

Treat her for what she is.....a wh0re.

 

[Karaage-]

Much appreciated guys.

I'm all over the place right now - but you guys are pulling me back into reality.

I need to work on me

 

[Karaage-]

So true dunno why I ****ing chose not to see it happening to me

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Your "RL" was dead in the water the minute she decided to go overseas.

End of story, now move on with your life. Look at how much time you've wasted trying to chase this broad!?

 

[wifehunter]

 

[Initiatedindenial]

Sorry mate but this boat is long gone.

She has already decided that you are not the one for her, she is just keeping you around for comfort until she finds someone who she wants, and wants her back.