"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The Break-Point of Greatness and Charisma

Duke

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I was just about to hit the sack when something hit me...I've been limiting my potential for greatness by trying to not to steal the thunder from my friends, or I will altogether fear their judgment. I am afraid to be vulnerable, but my lack of vulnerability comes at the expense of untold greatness.

What I mean is this... when I'm out with people, sometimes I think of something incredibly funny. Sometimes I have wonderful, provacative insight to share with the group. But I fear that someone in the group will get jealous or think I'm trying too hard or that I'm being an attention-wh0re or will think that what I said is pointless altogether.

So I hold back whatever it is I could have said. I bite my tongue and laugh to myself at what I am thinking, because I don't want to outshine the rest of the people around me and I fear what they'll think of me if I'm NOT funny or insightful.

In essence, I've limited my own greatness. I'm like a supersonic jet that's never activated it's afterburners.

This is probably one of the DUMBEST things I've been doing on a continual basis.

Put yourself out there. Put yourself on the line. It's the only way you will EVER be respected as an individual. Don't worry about how other people will judge you. Let them be jealous. They may be jealous, but they will definitely respect you. If they think that what you said is pointless, well... it ISN'T pointless if you decided to say it in the first place. It must have had meaning to you. Doing and saying what you want regardless of consequence is a key ingredient of charisma and more importantly, freedom.

It's time to shine, guys.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LuckyStrike

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Interesting point Duke. Fear can be our worst enemy and our best teacher all at the same time. Once one TRULY realizes that fear is simply a product of our own mind and nothing else, then they are no longer trapped by it.

Learn from it...instead of being limited by it!
 

chicksrock

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Yes...it comes down to the fact that DJ's aren't affraid of anything
 

big_jeffry

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ya, u r right chrisrock, dj's just laugh off rejection and are not afraid.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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