"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The bottom line on age difference

Guitar_Whizz

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Hi fellow DJs. I like this forum, although I'm only 23, I feel the disucssion here is of a better quality than in the main DJ forum.

However, I see the question of 'how young/old should you go' with regards to the age of the girl keeps cropping up frequently!
So I'd like to add my view on this subject.

So just how old/young a girl 'should' you date?. Well the answer is, there is no 'should'! That's right guys, no stupid formulas, etc. As long as the girl is of legal age or above, then you date a girl of whatever age you want, as you see fit, because my friends, it is YOU who is dating her, NOT the people who may criticise the age gap.

So whether she is 10/20 years younger/older etc, WHO CARES? If you like her and get on well together, why should age matter.

Just remember to keep it legal though ok.

I'm sick of people putting 'formulas' of how old/young you supposably 'should' date. I say f**k that and make up your own mind.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sux2bu

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Amen.
 
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Guitar whizz! you are el correcto mundo. hahaha. And I am proof of the age difference working. I have been with my young babe for about 2.5 years now and although we have had our ups n downs, the relationship is stronger than ever. Both her and I are forever being told that "He is too old for you" and "she is too young for you". Well, dam them all. Most people live in the "bathtub curve" of so call normalcy and are afraid to step out of their so call safe zones. Remember the book "johnathon Livingston seagull". Good short book to read about stepping out of the so called safe zone. I do it all the time.
By the way, my gf is 20 and I am 57. It has not been smooth going but it sure as heck has not been boring. haahaha
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when i see an old guy with a young girl, I feel sorry for the girl. An older guy has a huge advantage... all his years of experience... how can she compete with that? It's just not fair, sorta like the playground bully pickin on little kids.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Fitch

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Originally posted by Crank_It_Up
when i see an old guy with a young girl, I feel sorry for the girl. An older guy has a huge advantage... all his years of experience... how can she compete with that? It's just not fair, sorta like the playground bully pickin on little kids.
I llike the analogy; it's ironic.
 

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I am 39 and my girl is 24. She has a better head on her shoulders than the majority of chicks I know. I think maturity level is more important than age.
 

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Originally posted by averagejoe
I am 39 and my girl is 24. She has a better head on her shoulders than the majority of chicks I know. I think maturity level is more important than age.
Im 46 and my girl friend is 24
 

englishman

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Originally posted by Crank_It_Up
when i see an old guy with a young girl, I feel sorry for the girl. An older guy has a huge advantage... all his years of experience... how can she compete with that? It's just not fair, sorta like the playground bully pickin on little kids.

Your heads Fvcked!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by penkitten
its not the exact age , its the maturity level.
Prezactly! Of my last two relationships, they were about a year apart in age (and the older one was six years younger than me), one was about as mature as a 12 year old. Boy, was she a narcissist. Gorgeous, yes, but so insecure and immature that it was murder living with her. The other one was mature beyond her age and just all around down to earth. Not a conceited bone in her body, although she could be very headstrong at times. I guess that was fine, since she had to put up with my crap from time to time. :)
 
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