"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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The bottom line on age difference

Guitar_Whizz

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Hi fellow DJs. I like this forum, although I'm only 23, I feel the disucssion here is of a better quality than in the main DJ forum.

However, I see the question of 'how young/old should you go' with regards to the age of the girl keeps cropping up frequently!
So I'd like to add my view on this subject.

So just how old/young a girl 'should' you date?. Well the answer is, there is no 'should'! That's right guys, no stupid formulas, etc. As long as the girl is of legal age or above, then you date a girl of whatever age you want, as you see fit, because my friends, it is YOU who is dating her, NOT the people who may criticise the age gap.

So whether she is 10/20 years younger/older etc, WHO CARES? If you like her and get on well together, why should age matter.

Just remember to keep it legal though ok.

I'm sick of people putting 'formulas' of how old/young you supposably 'should' date. I say f**k that and make up your own mind.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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sux2bu

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Amen.
 
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Guitar whizz! you are el correcto mundo. hahaha. And I am proof of the age difference working. I have been with my young babe for about 2.5 years now and although we have had our ups n downs, the relationship is stronger than ever. Both her and I are forever being told that "He is too old for you" and "she is too young for you". Well, dam them all. Most people live in the "bathtub curve" of so call normalcy and are afraid to step out of their so call safe zones. Remember the book "johnathon Livingston seagull". Good short book to read about stepping out of the so called safe zone. I do it all the time.
By the way, my gf is 20 and I am 57. It has not been smooth going but it sure as heck has not been boring. haahaha
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when i see an old guy with a young girl, I feel sorry for the girl. An older guy has a huge advantage... all his years of experience... how can she compete with that? It's just not fair, sorta like the playground bully pickin on little kids.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Crank_It_Up
when i see an old guy with a young girl, I feel sorry for the girl. An older guy has a huge advantage... all his years of experience... how can she compete with that? It's just not fair, sorta like the playground bully pickin on little kids.
I llike the analogy; it's ironic.
 

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I am 39 and my girl is 24. She has a better head on her shoulders than the majority of chicks I know. I think maturity level is more important than age.
 

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Originally posted by averagejoe
I am 39 and my girl is 24. She has a better head on her shoulders than the majority of chicks I know. I think maturity level is more important than age.
Im 46 and my girl friend is 24
 

englishman

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Originally posted by Crank_It_Up
when i see an old guy with a young girl, I feel sorry for the girl. An older guy has a huge advantage... all his years of experience... how can she compete with that? It's just not fair, sorta like the playground bully pickin on little kids.

Your heads Fvcked!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by penkitten
its not the exact age , its the maturity level.
Prezactly! Of my last two relationships, they were about a year apart in age (and the older one was six years younger than me), one was about as mature as a 12 year old. Boy, was she a narcissist. Gorgeous, yes, but so insecure and immature that it was murder living with her. The other one was mature beyond her age and just all around down to earth. Not a conceited bone in her body, although she could be very headstrong at times. I guess that was fine, since she had to put up with my crap from time to time. :)
 
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