You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Right but his atittude is cool... And most girls love him, I see a lot of talk about gym and being built, but don´t forget that face is also very important.Alien said:
Ugh...I know you just joined the site and all but you should know by now that fame is infinitely more important than, well pretty much everything. Saying that a celebrity's "face" is very important is like saying that their mother's maiden name is very important.JdelaSilviera said:
Not what I meant at all.... Regarding to looks face is also important, this is just about his comment about being a skinny guy. A guy with a good looking face, will beat any day an ugly muscular beast in the looks section.Just a Shot Away said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Life is not a "looks section".JdelaSilviera said:
Actually funny you mention his gay body language. I know a guy who recently came out of the closet, and now he has armys of girls chasing him( he hadnt any before).. women do want what they can´t have.Alien said:
Yes. When you are in a relationship there is always a girl who tries to seduce you ...they take it as a challenge and want to prove themselves that they are more feminine than your girlfriend. Once they get you they lose interest.JdelaSilviera said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.