Borknagar
Master Don Juan
Ok back in the day, when I signed up a long ass time ago, I seem to remember some kind of guide, or black book, or something everyone read or whatever on this site, pardon my ignorance but is it still in existence?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.