Mantra
Don Juan
Here are some of my thoughts on Game at the moment, leaving it behind, and where I'm at etc!!!
Some home truths:
I've been reading about, and trying to practice PU for 4 years now with widely varying levels of success.
What does Game mean?
It means we learn and utilize a set of techniques which will make it more likely for women to fall for us so that we can then take things to the next stage; wherever that may be for us individually.
What is the underlying assumption behind the need to do this?
That we are not attractive enough as it is. Somewhere deep inside we are reinforcing the belief, especially if we keep on having to learn more and more, that we are at our core basically unappealing. Are you with me on this? I think that the material can be really great as a temporary training wheel to take you past some kind of social fear of babes, but at the end of the day, women are extremely intuitive, and most know when you are running canned material on them. In any case any more switched on, intelligent woman does.
I have come to the conclusion that, yes, you must open your heart. No, that isn't AFC. That continued study and obsession with the PU arts was damaging my integrity and self-love, those attributes which women find truly attractive. I was stuck in the world of WOMAN instead of expressing my gifts in the world.
The more we obsess about becoming a PUA and getting more and more women, the more we will give off a vibe of neediness, of desperation. In Tibetan Buddhism, there is a hellish realm on the Wheel Of Life called the Realm of Hungry Ghosts. It is peopled by beings that have food and drink all around them and hands to use, but their mouths are the size of a pinhead. They can never get enough in through the tiny hole to satisfy their cravings. It is a place of endless suffering and disturbed, murky, chaotic states of mind.
A universal law is that what we give out we get back in return. How then can we expect to find that one woman, the soul-mate, the intelligent, sexual, lovely being who we want to spend our lives with if we go around with an attitude of take, take, take all the time? We become what we think about! If we want love in our lives, we have to give out love - simple as! To get more of anything we must first give, and the most powerful way to give is to give of our deepest, truest gifts. This is a little what I meant when I mentioned opening the heart chakra. I really believe that too much need for loads of Game with it's inherent lack of acceptance of yourself closes the heart energy. Especially when you start to view all babes as things to be picked up, used, and discarded. And human interaction as a bunch of mathematical formulae. It's dehumanizing.
The author Sam Keen, who wrote the men's movement book "Fire in the Belly" says that we must sever the bond to Mother, and to WOMAN, to truly become men:
"A man's journey in relationship to WOMAN involves three stage. In the beginning he is sunk deep in an unconscious relationship with a falsely mystified figure who is composed of unreal opposites: virgin-*****, nurturer-devouring mother, goddess-demon. To grow from a man-child into a man, in the second stage, he must take leave of WOMAN and wander for a long time in the wild and sweet world of men. Finally, when he has learned to love his own manhood, he may return to the everyday world to love an ordinary woman."
My conclusion now is that being great with women boils down to the following simple things:
1. Be a man. Decisive, swift, lead the way!
2. Create a compelling life.
3. Enjoy the company of stimulating, intelligent friends who are willing to challenge and help you on your path of personal evolution.
4. Have a cheeky sense of humour.
5. Have expressive, strong upright body language.
6. Talk with confidence, energy and clarity.
7. Have more important goals in your life than just getting laid.
8. Become aware of your values.
9. Become aware of your purpose in life.
If the last two sound a bit esoteric, then consider that no less than Anthony Robbins says that our values mold virtually everything we do or don't do in our lives, and that a man without a purpose is like a ship on a stormy ocean without a rudder. David Deida goes further in saying that masculine energy IS direction and PURPOSE. We have to reflect and formulate a purpose for ourselves. When we become aware of, and align with, our values and purpose we have no need for Game anymore. Our presence and integrity is then so powerful that women, and abundance, are just drawn to us.
Don't get me wrong - I don't think I'm quite there yet! No such hubris. But think about the naturals, the guys who women flock around. These are the guys who have a burning vision, who are totally confident of that vision, and to whom it is more important than picking up girls. Yes, you're life purpose, and fulfilling that purpose must be THE most important thing in your life.
So.....there you have some of my present musings.
These days:
I'm working on giving more of myself and my gifts to the world, my music, my voice, my friendship.
I'm doing the 30-day audio program Personal Power 2 by Tony Robbins (inspiring!!!! I recommend it unflinchingly)
I'm training at the gym 5 days a week.
I'm writing and recording new music.
I'm starting my own business.
I'm going on a 4 day men's Buddhist meditation retreat over easter.
I'm learning to let people into my heart and to be real instead of playing a role, and sometimes it feels a bit tender and painful in there, but hey.....
And I'm just coming to realise that, yeah, I am in fact a damn attractive person when I get real, take off the masks, jettison the pre-prepared phrases and let my own unique personality shine through.
Some home truths:
I've been reading about, and trying to practice PU for 4 years now with widely varying levels of success.
What does Game mean?
It means we learn and utilize a set of techniques which will make it more likely for women to fall for us so that we can then take things to the next stage; wherever that may be for us individually.
What is the underlying assumption behind the need to do this?
That we are not attractive enough as it is. Somewhere deep inside we are reinforcing the belief, especially if we keep on having to learn more and more, that we are at our core basically unappealing. Are you with me on this? I think that the material can be really great as a temporary training wheel to take you past some kind of social fear of babes, but at the end of the day, women are extremely intuitive, and most know when you are running canned material on them. In any case any more switched on, intelligent woman does.
I have come to the conclusion that, yes, you must open your heart. No, that isn't AFC. That continued study and obsession with the PU arts was damaging my integrity and self-love, those attributes which women find truly attractive. I was stuck in the world of WOMAN instead of expressing my gifts in the world.
The more we obsess about becoming a PUA and getting more and more women, the more we will give off a vibe of neediness, of desperation. In Tibetan Buddhism, there is a hellish realm on the Wheel Of Life called the Realm of Hungry Ghosts. It is peopled by beings that have food and drink all around them and hands to use, but their mouths are the size of a pinhead. They can never get enough in through the tiny hole to satisfy their cravings. It is a place of endless suffering and disturbed, murky, chaotic states of mind.
A universal law is that what we give out we get back in return. How then can we expect to find that one woman, the soul-mate, the intelligent, sexual, lovely being who we want to spend our lives with if we go around with an attitude of take, take, take all the time? We become what we think about! If we want love in our lives, we have to give out love - simple as! To get more of anything we must first give, and the most powerful way to give is to give of our deepest, truest gifts. This is a little what I meant when I mentioned opening the heart chakra. I really believe that too much need for loads of Game with it's inherent lack of acceptance of yourself closes the heart energy. Especially when you start to view all babes as things to be picked up, used, and discarded. And human interaction as a bunch of mathematical formulae. It's dehumanizing.
The author Sam Keen, who wrote the men's movement book "Fire in the Belly" says that we must sever the bond to Mother, and to WOMAN, to truly become men:
"A man's journey in relationship to WOMAN involves three stage. In the beginning he is sunk deep in an unconscious relationship with a falsely mystified figure who is composed of unreal opposites: virgin-*****, nurturer-devouring mother, goddess-demon. To grow from a man-child into a man, in the second stage, he must take leave of WOMAN and wander for a long time in the wild and sweet world of men. Finally, when he has learned to love his own manhood, he may return to the everyday world to love an ordinary woman."
My conclusion now is that being great with women boils down to the following simple things:
1. Be a man. Decisive, swift, lead the way!
2. Create a compelling life.
3. Enjoy the company of stimulating, intelligent friends who are willing to challenge and help you on your path of personal evolution.
4. Have a cheeky sense of humour.
5. Have expressive, strong upright body language.
6. Talk with confidence, energy and clarity.
7. Have more important goals in your life than just getting laid.
8. Become aware of your values.
9. Become aware of your purpose in life.
If the last two sound a bit esoteric, then consider that no less than Anthony Robbins says that our values mold virtually everything we do or don't do in our lives, and that a man without a purpose is like a ship on a stormy ocean without a rudder. David Deida goes further in saying that masculine energy IS direction and PURPOSE. We have to reflect and formulate a purpose for ourselves. When we become aware of, and align with, our values and purpose we have no need for Game anymore. Our presence and integrity is then so powerful that women, and abundance, are just drawn to us.
Don't get me wrong - I don't think I'm quite there yet! No such hubris. But think about the naturals, the guys who women flock around. These are the guys who have a burning vision, who are totally confident of that vision, and to whom it is more important than picking up girls. Yes, you're life purpose, and fulfilling that purpose must be THE most important thing in your life.
So.....there you have some of my present musings.
These days:
I'm working on giving more of myself and my gifts to the world, my music, my voice, my friendship.
I'm doing the 30-day audio program Personal Power 2 by Tony Robbins (inspiring!!!! I recommend it unflinchingly)
I'm training at the gym 5 days a week.
I'm writing and recording new music.
I'm starting my own business.
I'm going on a 4 day men's Buddhist meditation retreat over easter.
I'm learning to let people into my heart and to be real instead of playing a role, and sometimes it feels a bit tender and painful in there, but hey.....
And I'm just coming to realise that, yeah, I am in fact a damn attractive person when I get real, take off the masks, jettison the pre-prepared phrases and let my own unique personality shine through.
