"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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the blueprint decoded

steve_erkle

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if i just put this on my ipod and listened to it would that be okay as opposed to watching it? As in, do I have to see what is going on in the blueprint, or will just hearing it be fine?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Listening is just as good if not better. That way you don't have to watch that idiot misspell every word he writes on the presentation board.
 
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Daydream Engineer is Azudragon's new name!

Listen to it is better. Its 99% in there, and his voice sounds like a comedian. Its better because you can do your own thing without being glued to the computer screen or tv. PM for cd version.
 
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