The biggest turn on you can give a woman

[RangerMIke]

Going to let you guys in on a little secret that I have NEVER seen on any PUA or make relationship forum, but has worked for me in the 3 decades I have been with women without fail. It is so simple that I'm shocked that no one else has picked up on this.

If a woman shares with you an accomplishment that she has earned... could be ANYTHING that is important to her, even if you really don't see it. You will know it is important to her unless you are socially retarded.

What you do is PUBLICALLY brag about it. Talk it up, BRAG FOR HER. If she is your girlfriend or wife, brag to family and friends. If she is just a girl you are dating... brag to people you know will say something to her "Hey, did you hear what happend with ......". If she is just a business associate, brag to your social circle of business people in your company "Join me in congadulating ..... on this well deserved recognition". She might pretend that she doesn't like it... it's all a freaking act, trust me she LOVES it.

Women LOVE attention, but they typically will not brag about themselves in an overt way. If you make a big deal about it, you are golden.

This does three things for you... it singles you out as a guy who will stand up for her, very appealing. And it confirms in her mind that you find her worthy of your attention. AND it shows that you are you are confident enough not to be afraid of her accomplishments.

 

[El Suave]

Very good post. I don't agree with one part however. Praising somebody about something that you don't see as an achievement yourself can come across as fake on your part and can lower yourself in her eyes, and others.

If your "value" is higher than hers(or even equal), or she looks up to you it is great advice. For example, you have a Master's(or BS) degree and she just got her Bachelor's. You congratulate and let everybody know, and praise without ever ending up with her looking down on you. Hope it makes sense. I'm not speaking from a point of view of insecurity, just emphasizing that sometimes praises can come across as as* kissing, and that is damaging.

 

[VladPatton]

I was gonna say the same thing El Payaso said about it seeming like fake ass kissing, but hey it's worth experimenting with. You need to sell it like an Oscar-worthy performance, though!

 

[logicallefty]

A similar situation as the OP for me:

A woman I am seeing happens to be studying for one of the same professional certifications that I already hold. Every few days I will text her and quiz her on the subject matter. I will ask her how much studying she has done and if she hasn't done a lot I will tell her "get on it slacker.. don't text me again until you finish a chapter in the book and can pass *MY* pop quiz" :nono:

She is eating it up and I am having a lot of fun with it. I have told her "Yeah but even when you get certified you still won't be QUITE as smart as I am, but very close" She is like "yeah whatever!" She has told me "Wow my ex used to tell me I was wasting my time with studying outside of work and now you are on my a$$ to get moving on it. I need this and love it!"

So yeah I can see some truth to what the OP is saying.