The biggest mistakes you've made..

[mikey2012]

For me losing my frame and acting all beta to try and keep her. Not willing to walk away. Being too nice. Being too available. Letting her lead the relationship.

What are yours?

 

[Comatozed]

Sooo many from my first relationship, lucky it lasted so long tbh, and that pains me to this day cos I feel like if knew what I knew now, it woulda been different.

Beta/nice/didn't lead/available/didn't spin plates/didn't dominate.

She was the right person at the wrong time.

 

[sylvester the cat]

Letter writing.

 

[stevo]

Had a girl stay at my crib till almost 2am (more than once) and I was sitting next to her waiting for a "greenlight" to escalate, light never came. Looking back now, could have tore that ass up a couple times.

 

[indianapolis]

getting stuk in indianapolis

 

[way2smart]

For me, my biggest mistake was being a nice guy and getting married(then divorced)

 

[Ray S]

Getting into serious relationships with sluts.

 

[SummerNight]

My usual biggest mistakes have been not making any moves on hot girls that were into me in high school. I can always comfort myself in the knowledge that I didn't know any better back then.. but it still hurts when I look back at those opportunities.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Being stuck on my first love/oneitius for way too long. Willing to look past and ignore every fault, red flag, manipulation, and issue of hers just because in a sea of terrible women she didn't SEEM as bad as the others.

 

[TheGambino]

Had my old oneitis friendzone girl in my bedroom once before the friendzone ofcourse. Watching the movie without escalating, I was a young afc years ago.
Years later I fought her boyfriend over her even worse.

Another plate I dated turned me in a big whiny afc, shes a model a dime but she drove me to sosuave so im thankful for that.

Now im blessed with knowledge

 

[LuckyStrike88]

Acting too tough when last ex broke up being like it's fine. Then going afc saying i was gonna miss her and that it was really hard. Even sending her a letter. Just to be ignored and blocked on all communications.

 

[GS750]

Long game. Not escalating when I should have. Big fvcking mistake.

 

[logicallefty]

Trusting women over and over and over and not accepting that women with honor, ethics, and integrity are the exception and not the norm.

 

[Darth]

The first girl I had a crush on. I made her the center of my world. I worshiped the ground she walked on. I idolized her.

Needless to say, after I wrote her mom on the school board 3 love letters (which she then emailed to her daughter), the first thing she said in her reply was,

"I had no idea you felt this way about me!"

She proceeded to say that she had a boyfriend who she loved very much, but that there was a nice girl out there for me too.

Sometimes I wonder if the year was 2015 and not 2005 if her reply would have been as kind (or existent, even).

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Just making girls the center of my happiness. Also, trying to convince myself that my oneitis was "different from all those other girls." Never will I allow myself to think that again.

Ugh, if only I knew then what I know now. Sometimes I wish we got 2 cracks at life.

 

[RangerMIke]

Getting married... then saying married too long to a crazy @ss b!tch, spending a small fortune on shrinks trying to fix what could not be fixed.