The biggest downside to the DJ lifestyle

[JB101]

As fun as it is to pick up girls and lay them, I've noticed some very large POTENTIAL downsides:

The main one being of course, rape, even purely accidental. Obviously if she says the words "no" at any point, you back off. We're not that crazy. But what if you're getting her soaking wet. Her pu$$y aching and throbbing for you. Could she still give in to sex, even if she didn't really want it?

You can persuade her and push all of the right buttons and sort of "force yourself" in a way on her. Maybe she doesn't want it just yet, but by rubbing her thighs, kissing sensually on her neck and loosening her inhibitions, she just says...ok, whatever. What if you're playing forcefully, pulling her hair, telling her to open her legs, etc? Where's the line between consensual rough housing and submitting because of fear?

I think every guy out there should take a look at the current laws in his state. Not to be paranoid, but to be aware. It's way too important of a charge to be ignorant of.

The other big downside (besides pregnancy) is screwing around in other peoples lifes. As much as we want to believe that we are these omnipotent sexual gods with no feelings whatsoever, does it feel good to hurt a marriage or to break a couple up? If I was with a great girl, would I want to be broken up by some SoSuave Stud?

You can still have fun and dramatically reduse the downside. Becoming much more selective in the girls you see. Only shooting for quality and not attracting some sleazy chick out to mess up your life.

Of course always using a condom. And playing the field in such a way where it is OBVIOUS that you are only adding to someones life. You're not taking anything away. Why possibly put yourself through a bunch of havoc. There's plenty of girls out there.

What are your thoughts on the downside of all of this?

 

[ShortTimer]

I don't think most of the posters on the forum are pimp enough to pull off what you're talking about.

 

[dig it]

Yeh, are YOU a girl?

Really, i agree with what you are saying. But that isn't the mindset to have.

If a guy wants to be stupid and not use a condom with a girl he barely knows, its his fault.

As for rape, we should all know when to stop, or if its just not on.

Use some common sense, defidently.

But really, if i am single, then why should i not go out and have as many girls as i want?

What you are basically telling me to do is LIMIT my choice!

Well, if i limit my choice, then how am i ever to know who is the right girl and who is the wrong girl?

If i get burnt by one particular type of girl and dont think she can be any good for me in any capacity, then its me who will be stupid if i continue to go for those types of girls.

****Being a DJ is not just about laying girls, or trying to pick up girls.

Its only a small part of it, yes the juiciest part of it, but its not all there is.
That type of thing is for PUA's (pick up artist)

A DJ focuses on his life, not on girls. Girls are a part of his life.

In fact, i'd say its impossible to be a DJ in true DJ style if all you did was try and pick up girls with this teaching. Thats where most people go wrong. DJ is about making a better man more so than it is with making a better c@ck.

Fact is, that by making yourself a better man, chicks will run to you.

A lot of the guys on this forum are here because they dont even have a clue, and seeing some of this stuff, makes me realise there are more than i first thought.

Also, one of the things that requires most attention with a lot of people is their women skills. A lot of time is devoted to it. But if anyone thinks a girl is more important than himself, then he is a fool. If he is a aspiring dj, that is. If its not, then he is just another pick up artist.

Take this for instance....if you are so good a man in all facets and you are successfully getting as many girls as you want (bareing in mind each persons mind-set is different in regards to how many at once, etc) then you will find that you will place less importance on girls and more on themselves.

A dj devotes himself to HIS life. Not to screwing girls. Its a little bit different to what you are thinking. Slightly. BUt the counter effects are wide-ranging.

You'll find a PUA at night clubs and chatting up women with fancy lines and whatnot all the time. A dj doesn't really have to resort to gimmicks, whatever usually, because he is the master of himself and he knows whats what.

In short, he has that part of his life HANDLED. Whereas a PUA doesn't. A dj is more about getting girls, its a lifestyle.