Seizing The Day
Don Juan
A recurring theme I've noticed here is guys' asking about how to approach some woman that they occasionally see at work, school, etc...........
They lack confidence to simply strike up a convo and find out if shes available because they have so few opportunities.
Think about it, if you give yourself limited opportunities, you tend to relish the ones you get. This is why its soooo important for a man to get out and travel, head to big cities, where the opportunities abound.
Self-imposed lack of opportunity is, without a doubt, the single biggest confidence killer there is. Meeting women is a numbers game. You play with small numbers, you'll get small results.
Some years back, I had the good fortune to take part in a "Bassmasters" fishing tourney. I got to team up with a pro (I'll call him Chuck) as part of a Pro-Am fundraiser.
This guy had an awsome rig, best equipment, etc,. Not long after we got out on this huge lake, I made the comment, "I suppose to be really good at this bass fishing, you have to be pretty patient".
"Actually", said Chuck, "Just the opposite is true. A good angler is very impatient,and doesn't waste much time on unproductive areas. He moves on, constantly, searching for where the fish are".
To me, this is the way it is with women also. You must be where they are. Fooling around, wasting time with very few prospects leaves a man frustrated.
I'm a widower, having lost my wife 2 years ago to cancer. But since I started getting back out "hounding" I've met something like 200 available women, some quite gorgeous. I just can't get over how many are around.
To you guys that live in rural, small areas.............get travelling. Head to the big towns. The horse tracks are my personal favorite.........the number of women hanging at these places is amazing.
To you guys who are always waiting (or hoping) for a woman to approach you..........forget it. Most wont. Approaching is a guy thing, accept it.
As far as getting them interested in you, thats easy. People naturally take an interest in someone who shows genuine interest in them. Its not a big deal. Tell a woman you find her attractive, and want to find out out more about her. This will lead to....
A: She isn't available/ commited/married (Move on)
B: Isn't interested in you (the reason doesnt matter, move on)
C: You discovering that she has a personality like a sucked out lemon (Move on)
D: Seems receptive to you, in which case you've got the ball rolling.
Remember, dress well, always be prepared. Use your smile. Pay close attention to her actions.
Remember also, if a woman finds you physically attractive, there is very little that you can say or do wrong (at least initially)
If they find you physically un attractive, there is very little (if anything) you can say or do right. So don't waste time trying to convince them with a sales pitch.
They lack confidence to simply strike up a convo and find out if shes available because they have so few opportunities.
Think about it, if you give yourself limited opportunities, you tend to relish the ones you get. This is why its soooo important for a man to get out and travel, head to big cities, where the opportunities abound.
Self-imposed lack of opportunity is, without a doubt, the single biggest confidence killer there is. Meeting women is a numbers game. You play with small numbers, you'll get small results.
Some years back, I had the good fortune to take part in a "Bassmasters" fishing tourney. I got to team up with a pro (I'll call him Chuck) as part of a Pro-Am fundraiser.
This guy had an awsome rig, best equipment, etc,. Not long after we got out on this huge lake, I made the comment, "I suppose to be really good at this bass fishing, you have to be pretty patient".
"Actually", said Chuck, "Just the opposite is true. A good angler is very impatient,and doesn't waste much time on unproductive areas. He moves on, constantly, searching for where the fish are".
To me, this is the way it is with women also. You must be where they are. Fooling around, wasting time with very few prospects leaves a man frustrated.
I'm a widower, having lost my wife 2 years ago to cancer. But since I started getting back out "hounding" I've met something like 200 available women, some quite gorgeous. I just can't get over how many are around.
To you guys that live in rural, small areas.............get travelling. Head to the big towns. The horse tracks are my personal favorite.........the number of women hanging at these places is amazing.
To you guys who are always waiting (or hoping) for a woman to approach you..........forget it. Most wont. Approaching is a guy thing, accept it.
As far as getting them interested in you, thats easy. People naturally take an interest in someone who shows genuine interest in them. Its not a big deal. Tell a woman you find her attractive, and want to find out out more about her. This will lead to....
A: She isn't available/ commited/married (Move on)
B: Isn't interested in you (the reason doesnt matter, move on)
C: You discovering that she has a personality like a sucked out lemon (Move on)
D: Seems receptive to you, in which case you've got the ball rolling.
Remember, dress well, always be prepared. Use your smile. Pay close attention to her actions.
Remember also, if a woman finds you physically attractive, there is very little that you can say or do wrong (at least initially)
If they find you physically un attractive, there is very little (if anything) you can say or do right. So don't waste time trying to convince them with a sales pitch.
