The BIGGER issue behind all of this..

[btownbuck2012]

Is that most guys have nothing going for them. At all.

Therefore when they DO get some type of response, any response, out of the opposite sex, whether it be through work or friends or w/e, it flips their entire world upside down.

They can't stop thinking about this girl whom they know, literally, nothing about. They start making assumptions about her in regards to what kind of life she has been living up until this point, what her hobbies are, a future with her, etc, etc, etc,. All of this, and they barely even know her.

The solution is to get a life. I know that this is said all the time and sounds pretty cliché but its true. You have to find something that gets you, not just out of bed in the morning, but actually excited to be alive. Things and opportunities are out there. I just wish guys would stop spending so much of their effort and time trying to get laid.

Women know the value of their cooch. THEY KNOW. You can see it in the way they walk around. They walk with confidence, swagger, and a don't give a fvck attitude. The problem is that these are the traits MEN SHOULD HAVE. However, most men don't have these traits because they are obsessed with getting their d! ck wet, thus seeking approval from women.

Real swag and confidence comes from carving your way out through this world. It will be tough, no doubt. Some of the greatest men in history were incredible failures before they succeeded. The bottom line is that once you do find your passion in life, your calling, women will come to you. That's a fact of life. I have noticed that women go wild for the men that don't seemed phased by life, i.e. guys who have been through the sh! t, thus they aren't afraid of sh !t, if that makes sense.

Get out into the world and, for the love of god, live your life. Stop being afraid of speaking up and giving your opinion. Stop waiting to "see what everyone else is doing" before you act. Stop being afraid to fail. Stop being afraid to give a head nod followed by a "sup?" to people who stare at you a little too long on the bus. And STOP THINKING YOU NEED A GIRL TO ADD MEANING TO YOUR LIFE. Make something of your damn self. Once you do, you'll find that getting laid ain't no thang

peace.

 

[f283000]

Very true.

When we are not successful with women or in life in general the first woman that gives us the time of day we become obsessed with (oneitis etc).

Constant self development is the key to not giving a damn about women anymore as in them not becoming an obsession but an addition to one's life.

 

[runner83]

Great post and very true.

As RT has said in various posts:

"A man is only as valuable as his options"

 

[bluenorther]

The converse is also true, but most guys never realize it: Women typically have NOTHING going for them, either!
Other than a wet *****... their worlds are no bigger than what's inside their white picket fence. They have their *friends*, bfd. Do they have interesting hobbies and passions? No. They have cell phones. They have ankle-biters. They have disillusioned exes. They go places where they can be entertained without doing any actual work. They make us feel like characters out of Invasion Of The Bodysnatchers-- the last normal humans, surrounded by alien pod-people who have an agenda all their own. They LOOK attractive enough, but they're really toxic.