I'm a newbie on this board, and I've looked around this site extensively, and there is simply a HUGE wealth of information here. But after reading a lot of it, and understanding it, and realizing how fvcking true and useful it is, you arrive at a point where you say "OK, now where do I go from here?". There's so much information here, and you can take it all in, but what is the clear, blunt, IDEA here, simply? How does all this stuff fit together? What is the simple answer to who the DJ is?
What's the big picture here?
Well, I've thought about it, and this is what I've come up with:
Being a DJ is a mindset. A way of thinking. You become a DJ if you have two main qualities in the way you think:
1 - Confidence
2 - Not Caring
All things stem from having these two things. And they really interplay between each other in the end.
Confidence in that you know what you're doing, and you know you CAN do it. You know you are the guy that can make stuff happen. You're the leader AND YOU KNOW IT. A non-confident guy, doesn't beleive he can do it, and then therefore can't. (If you don't have confidence and believe in yourself, the person who can change the situation, how can you expect someone else, someone who can't change the situation, to believe in you?)
The confident guy doesn't just walk down the hall; He walks down the hall LIKE HE MEANS IT. He triumphs with every step as he knows "he CAN walk down the hall; he WILL walk down the hall; he IS walking down the hall", and he looks like a true man when he does it.
The confident man doesn't just eat a sandwich, he eats the HELL out of it .
Having confidence shows you CAN succeed, it shows you WILL succeed. It makes you the leader. It makes you the Alpha Male.
Not Caring in the way that you don't obsess about everything. You don't get hung up and "whine" all the time. "Nice Guys" notoriously "Care too much". A true DJ is occupied, and has a clear, confident mindset, and doesnt have little p*ssy worries about everything, he has sh!t to do god@mmit.
You don't care about what other people think. You do your own thing. You are the Alpha Male god@mmit!
You LEAD, you don't copy something else, you make something everyone else below you copies.
Think about the Alpha Male in a pack of wolves.
He never has worries about the other wolves. The Alpha Male goes out and hunts and leads, and the other wolf either helps him hunt or fvcks off. He doesnt care about the other wolf, this is buisness.
He isnt bothered by petty worries of his mate. She has sex with him and has babies and nutures them, thats it, as far as he's concerned. He worries about leading his pack. It's not that simple, but thats the idea.
Becoming the DJ is becoming the Alpha Male.
Not the Alpha Male with women, the Alpha Male with LIFE.
The Alpha Male grabs life by the neck, rips its head off and feeds on it's dead carcas. The Chumps huddle around the back, trying to get a peice.
You want to get women, then you have to be what women want. Women want the Alpha Male, that's how they're programmed.
If you have Confidence, and you 'Don't Care', you will eventually turn into the Alpha Male.
Everything stems from having those two things. All the advice you read on this site can be traced back to those two qualities. Become those two things, and you will succeed.
And remember, a true Alpha Male/DJ mindset is not just about approaching women; It's about approaching Life.
Confidence and Not Caring. This is where you can start, this is where everything fits in the scheme of things. Every trick, every tip, every peice of advice has it's origin here.
I always learned better when everything I learned could be related to the big picture, and when you realize what the Big Picture looks like, when you know what The Game really is and how it works; then, my friend, that is where you stop being an AFC following tips and advice, and you start becoming a Don Juan.
What's the big picture here?
Well, I've thought about it, and this is what I've come up with:
Being a DJ is a mindset. A way of thinking. You become a DJ if you have two main qualities in the way you think:
1 - Confidence
2 - Not Caring
All things stem from having these two things. And they really interplay between each other in the end.
Confidence in that you know what you're doing, and you know you CAN do it. You know you are the guy that can make stuff happen. You're the leader AND YOU KNOW IT. A non-confident guy, doesn't beleive he can do it, and then therefore can't. (If you don't have confidence and believe in yourself, the person who can change the situation, how can you expect someone else, someone who can't change the situation, to believe in you?)
The confident guy doesn't just walk down the hall; He walks down the hall LIKE HE MEANS IT. He triumphs with every step as he knows "he CAN walk down the hall; he WILL walk down the hall; he IS walking down the hall", and he looks like a true man when he does it.
The confident man doesn't just eat a sandwich, he eats the HELL out of it .
Having confidence shows you CAN succeed, it shows you WILL succeed. It makes you the leader. It makes you the Alpha Male.
Not Caring in the way that you don't obsess about everything. You don't get hung up and "whine" all the time. "Nice Guys" notoriously "Care too much". A true DJ is occupied, and has a clear, confident mindset, and doesnt have little p*ssy worries about everything, he has sh!t to do god@mmit.
You don't care about what other people think. You do your own thing. You are the Alpha Male god@mmit!
You LEAD, you don't copy something else, you make something everyone else below you copies.
Think about the Alpha Male in a pack of wolves.
He never has worries about the other wolves. The Alpha Male goes out and hunts and leads, and the other wolf either helps him hunt or fvcks off. He doesnt care about the other wolf, this is buisness.
He isnt bothered by petty worries of his mate. She has sex with him and has babies and nutures them, thats it, as far as he's concerned. He worries about leading his pack. It's not that simple, but thats the idea.
Becoming the DJ is becoming the Alpha Male.
Not the Alpha Male with women, the Alpha Male with LIFE.
The Alpha Male grabs life by the neck, rips its head off and feeds on it's dead carcas. The Chumps huddle around the back, trying to get a peice.
You want to get women, then you have to be what women want. Women want the Alpha Male, that's how they're programmed.
If you have Confidence, and you 'Don't Care', you will eventually turn into the Alpha Male.
Everything stems from having those two things. All the advice you read on this site can be traced back to those two qualities. Become those two things, and you will succeed.
And remember, a true Alpha Male/DJ mindset is not just about approaching women; It's about approaching Life.
Confidence and Not Caring. This is where you can start, this is where everything fits in the scheme of things. Every trick, every tip, every peice of advice has it's origin here.
I always learned better when everything I learned could be related to the big picture, and when you realize what the Big Picture looks like, when you know what The Game really is and how it works; then, my friend, that is where you stop being an AFC following tips and advice, and you start becoming a Don Juan.
