"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The best place in the world?

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Question: What is the best place in the world?

I was raised in the Chicago suburbs. Went to school in the remote area, and since graduating college, have lived/worked in the city for 3 years. Love the city; great music, a ton to do, great women, the job is good. All is well. Tonight I was at a street festival with all the best of everything.

Just got word that my older brother is transferring to what we agree is the best part of the world: San Diego, California. It's 65-75 degrees 300 days per year, how freaking awesome is that? Best weather in the world, and on the ocean. Far enough from LA that it's not a cesspool, but also has a beach.

He's currently a VP of Finance for a Fortune 50 (fifty) company, and is getting a promotion to run their San Diego business. After I joked that I'd visit him more often than I do now (I live around 45 minutes away), he said I should think about moving, he would love for me to live with him until I can find a job. I laughed. Then...

In my drunken stupor that I'm in, I'm thinking it's a freaking great idea. I'm not so high up that I couldn't get an equal position in SD. I have no real attachment; I'd actually be closer to my family (parents in AZ, rest in Northern Cali) except for my other brother, who I only see for family get-togethers.

My only attachment is grad school, which I'm 1/2 way through, and probably could transfer. While I do have a lot of friends, we have been a little detached for awhile and am not sure I'd feel bitter about the move, although my current enthusiasm may not be longstandings.

Thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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its up to u if u wanna leave everything behind...but ill agree with u that socal is the best. it has everything anyone would ever want...

no disrespect to anywhere else in the world. lol im from here so maybe im bias
 
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Born in Norway, lived in malaysia until 5, lived in norway until 9-10, lived in italy until 14, lived in norway until now to finish studies then im off to some other country. Malaysia is great, bit too hot though. Norway is also fantastic, the place with the highest standard of living according to the UN and also the lowest murder rate in the world.
 
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I'd like to live in Thailand if I could get a job with decent money.
 
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I wouldn't say best in the *world* but IMO Santa Barbara is better than San Diego.. much smaller and even more relaxed, same perfect weather, amazing mountains right next to the ocean so you can go hiking after you finish swimming. Maybe I'm just biased cause I've lived here for about 15 years :)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Do it man, San Diego is fvcking amazing trust me!! But, everything will be slightly more expensive (ie. houses, apts) because of the proximity to the beach rather than for someone who lives in the valley
 
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Colin O'Brien said:
I wouldn't say best in the *world* but IMO Santa Barbara is better than San Diego.. much smaller and even more relaxed, same perfect weather, amazing mountains right next to the ocean so you can go hiking after you finish swimming. Maybe I'm just biased cause I've lived here for about 15 years :)
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Cool, I know someone who lives in Santa Barbara.
 
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I'd do it in a heartbeat, though I wouldn't trade if for where I live now, I reckon, but where I used to live (Memphis), I'd trade it in a heartbeat. I feel as though I live in the greatest place in the US to live right now. If I could live anywhere in the world it'd probably be Switzerland or New Zealand.

Moving from where I was born and raised has been the single best decision in my life. The women have a different mindset everywhere you go. I was fedup with the women in the deep south. They're just stupid and lazy. You'll find Straight pockets of babes as you explore the country. There are sections of this country where the women want the d1ck, and won't fvck around about getting it. They just Do it. I imagine San Diego would be that kind of place. It's expensive as Hell though, probably 5 times as expensive where I am currently living.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Love Chicago for the great food, music, sports, and job opportunities. Women are amazing here as well. Everything's pretty good except I hate the taxes on cars / excessive parking regulations. Also hate the weather.

I'd imagine in SD you get paid a little better due to the higher cost of living...my sister is a teacher there and she got paid like 50% more than my brother, who is a teacher here in IL.
 
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