r4zorsharp
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The best advice I ever gave myself was to stop chasing women and focusing on women and really work on myself. i also came to the realization that not everyone was meant to be a **** slinging player with all this attention from women. its just not practical, especially in these times where women are a lot more bolder, wiser and more aware of their self worth then ever before.
a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders when i realized that i no longer want to chase these superficial things that everyone else wants. Well not everyone else because the majority of people who actually have a good life, don't care about this stuff.. those people usually are the types to actually have a good committed relationship anyways.
i think a major part of this was coming to a huge level of acceptance of reality. many of us guys, who have had the pleasure of having attention from women often let it get to us and we magnify it into something else, when the reality of it and what i was ignoring was that this whole ego thing was not working for me. at all. the thing that really works for me is fierce positivity and being a genuinely good guy. i realized that no matter who you are, there will always be women who like you and women who just dont. everyone has their preference. same with guys. there will be dudes out there who look at u and automatically hate you and some who might automatically think "man iw ant to be friends with that guy".. and then theres the whole group of women and men who don't care or are completely indifferent about you.
the thing is, you need to have something that defines you. you need to be a person. you need to have your passions and hobbies and friends . you need to be stable, and have a stable job and independence in your life, before you pursue things that are out of your reach or unrealistic for you. many of us just dont have our priorities in order. and then many of us have things in order, but we really try to push the gamut and try to be this thing or want these things, that literally everyone wants, but most people are realistic about.
I read something about Dan Bilzerian recently about how unhappy he was in life and without drugs he couldn't find happiness. That most of the women around him seemed to use him for his fame and money, and how he was spending all this money to keep this lifestyle up, that he didn't have.. He was using company money to do this, with a company he was a key member of. Now that company is suffering greatly, and Dan is facing legal issues and financial trouble because of it. If you dont know who Dan Bilzerian is, hes some rich dude (well really a bit of a trust fund baby) who marketed this lifestyle where he has hundreds of models around him, doing super luxurious and manly things, and basically these girls are like horny for his attention.. However, despite the amount of ***** he was getting, a lot of it came at a great cost, and hew as never really happy and what really kept him happy was medications, drugs and attention from his audience/people.
a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders when i realized that i no longer want to chase these superficial things that everyone else wants. Well not everyone else because the majority of people who actually have a good life, don't care about this stuff.. those people usually are the types to actually have a good committed relationship anyways.
i think a major part of this was coming to a huge level of acceptance of reality. many of us guys, who have had the pleasure of having attention from women often let it get to us and we magnify it into something else, when the reality of it and what i was ignoring was that this whole ego thing was not working for me. at all. the thing that really works for me is fierce positivity and being a genuinely good guy. i realized that no matter who you are, there will always be women who like you and women who just dont. everyone has their preference. same with guys. there will be dudes out there who look at u and automatically hate you and some who might automatically think "man iw ant to be friends with that guy".. and then theres the whole group of women and men who don't care or are completely indifferent about you.
the thing is, you need to have something that defines you. you need to be a person. you need to have your passions and hobbies and friends . you need to be stable, and have a stable job and independence in your life, before you pursue things that are out of your reach or unrealistic for you. many of us just dont have our priorities in order. and then many of us have things in order, but we really try to push the gamut and try to be this thing or want these things, that literally everyone wants, but most people are realistic about.
I read something about Dan Bilzerian recently about how unhappy he was in life and without drugs he couldn't find happiness. That most of the women around him seemed to use him for his fame and money, and how he was spending all this money to keep this lifestyle up, that he didn't have.. He was using company money to do this, with a company he was a key member of. Now that company is suffering greatly, and Dan is facing legal issues and financial trouble because of it. If you dont know who Dan Bilzerian is, hes some rich dude (well really a bit of a trust fund baby) who marketed this lifestyle where he has hundreds of models around him, doing super luxurious and manly things, and basically these girls are like horny for his attention.. However, despite the amount of ***** he was getting, a lot of it came at a great cost, and hew as never really happy and what really kept him happy was medications, drugs and attention from his audience/people.
For myself, I rather find a nice girl and settle down. But I don't even want to pursue a girl until maybe next year, after i trimmed all this fat, and get ripped. As well as after I become more independent and secure in myself.
