This tip is about general asking questions in order to recieve the best possible advice about a subject that might be troubling your minds.
1) Some questions are really common sense: Should I approach? Should I call her? Should I ask her out? Should I _...?
Any time you are thinking "should I?" you are going to get answers that range from yes to, you guessed it, no. Personally I think that if ever you catch yourself asking yourself if you should, GO FOR IT. Provided you are not wondering about something illegal ("should I, a 24 yr old man, have sex with this 16 yr old girl?"), then usually the best thing is to go for it. Remember experimenting and trying out new things? If you ARE gong to try something out, or if you already did and want some imput, then and only then do I consider it worth my time to read a post that asks some analogous question and give feedback about it. Remember, whatever any user in this site says, you don't need the board's permission to go through life the way you want.
2) Lets face it, there are a LOT of posts in the main board asking for questions, many of which can be answered by the bible or by writing a two line comment (see above). So, if you have a question in your mind that you really want answered, try not writing a two page description of the situation before getting down to the question. I know many people like the drama, and even I am all about lurking when I have the time to spare, but really, if a post has more than three paragraphs of description (I might as well wait until the movie comes out), I am least likely to read it all and post a reply.
I know we all think the girl who winked at us in class and later said "hi" in the corridor is the most special girl in the universe, and therefore the situation requires careful explanation starting with the time she commented about the climate two years ago (note the sarcasm). But in reality, the more you write, the more you compound the question, the more you sabotage the answers. Think about it, the old timers in the board, who really want to contribute something, are most likely fed up with long oneitis' essay-questions. And I say, if you really want serious input, keep it short and simple. Providing users with the main ballpark of a situation is usually all it takes for us to get the picture, many of us have probably experienced something similar.
Keep it simple when asking questions. The useful replies answers won't necessarily be less thought out.
1) Some questions are really common sense: Should I approach? Should I call her? Should I ask her out? Should I _...?
Any time you are thinking "should I?" you are going to get answers that range from yes to, you guessed it, no. Personally I think that if ever you catch yourself asking yourself if you should, GO FOR IT. Provided you are not wondering about something illegal ("should I, a 24 yr old man, have sex with this 16 yr old girl?"), then usually the best thing is to go for it. Remember experimenting and trying out new things? If you ARE gong to try something out, or if you already did and want some imput, then and only then do I consider it worth my time to read a post that asks some analogous question and give feedback about it. Remember, whatever any user in this site says, you don't need the board's permission to go through life the way you want.
2) Lets face it, there are a LOT of posts in the main board asking for questions, many of which can be answered by the bible or by writing a two line comment (see above). So, if you have a question in your mind that you really want answered, try not writing a two page description of the situation before getting down to the question. I know many people like the drama, and even I am all about lurking when I have the time to spare, but really, if a post has more than three paragraphs of description (I might as well wait until the movie comes out), I am least likely to read it all and post a reply.
I know we all think the girl who winked at us in class and later said "hi" in the corridor is the most special girl in the universe, and therefore the situation requires careful explanation starting with the time she commented about the climate two years ago (note the sarcasm). But in reality, the more you write, the more you compound the question, the more you sabotage the answers. Think about it, the old timers in the board, who really want to contribute something, are most likely fed up with long oneitis' essay-questions. And I say, if you really want serious input, keep it short and simple. Providing users with the main ballpark of a situation is usually all it takes for us to get the picture, many of us have probably experienced something similar.
Keep it simple when asking questions. The useful replies answers won't necessarily be less thought out.
- if i read every 3 paragraph "help me" post i'd be here till the cows come home.