The battle of interest

[itishe]

Here's the run down.

Chick likes me alot.
I sort of like chick, more attracted to her huge tits and big ass.
Chick won't put out after two months
I bang one of her best friends
She cries I apologize and say it was stupid of me
Ever since she's acting less interested/contacting me less, etc.

I know for a fact she's still into me quite a bit. Should I just quit contacting her period so she knows I won't let her win this power struggle?

 

[baffledking]

Tell her you respect her feelings and that you don't want her to do anything she isn't comfortable with but let her know that you have needs too, and that her bad signals lead you to seek satisfaction in a different place..i.e. her friend.

 

[MacDiddy]

Is this the same chick you've been harping on about in your other post?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

All of this over a chick you 'sort of' like? If it's just the sex, you may be able to find other women with big TnA.

 

[itishe]

You see though Mr. Minneapolis I live many miles north of you in this grand state of Minnesota and the girls don't come too many with the big TnA.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Minnesota is the land of 10,000 lakes and 10,000 herds of Nordic Snow Cows. You're telling me that you can't come across another one with bodacious brisket and an ample round?

 

[itishe]

Minnesota is the land of 10,000 lakes and 10,000 herds of Nordic Snow Cows. You're telling me that you can't come across another one with bodacious brisket and an ample round?

Not in my little town.

I want to bang this one, it's a primal urge.

 

[PRMoon]

Not in my little town.

I want to bang this one, it's a primal urge.

And I want to wake up to a gourmet brekfast everymorning, but will it happen....

Look I can't really simpathize with you about your population size and quaility, that blows, but putting too much thought and work into these situations will destroy your mind and ultimately end up in the end of the situation. You have to be patient and ease up on the gas. Throw a phone call here and there but don't be too eager to pedistal her. You've got to ge her thinking about you and the best way is to give her some space.

 

[itishe]

So like I says, cut off contact with her for a good while.

Not return her calls, etc.

It's her birthday tomorrow. I don't plan on seeing her (work all day), but I'll give her a call to wish her happy birthday. That's about it. I'll give the gift to her another day.

 

[backbreaker]

Judge ye by actions, not words

A woman who does not put out within 1 week of meeting you does not like you

A woman that likes you will fly half way across the country, swim across the boarder down to mexico, learn spanish just to figure out what hotel you are in, and climb up to the 3rd floor window, let you shoot in her mouth, and hide in the closet when your GF walks in.

The only power struggle going on is the Final Fantasy version going on in your head

 

[AlphaOmega]

You haven't given enough information in this thread. You don't just "judge a woman based on her actions," (whatever that means ) You judge her based on abberations in her actions - i.e. did she put out easily for other guys, is she a slut? Thats why I ask for more info. If she doesn't usually put out easily, then she wants a relationship with you and is waiting to build something :yes:, If she is a slut, then either she has become a nun who wants to keep you or she is up to something else for which we have insufficient info. You decide whats more likely. What is it that you want? Like others said, if you just want someone with a body, then move on. If you care for her, which from your actions is prolly not the case, then whatever. Cost-Benifit Analysis baby....

P.S. My opinion, she wants a relationship, although 2 months is too long, but thats because she doens't trust you, and she is vindicated in your tapping of her friend's ass...

 

[ConantheLibertarian]

P.S. My opinion, she wants a relationship, although 2 months is too long, but thats because she doens't trust you, and she is vindicated in your tapping of her friend's ass...

Spot on with that comment. Just accept the fact that you haven't made enough of the right moves to make her want to let you pound her guts.

 

[PrinceBeavis]

Well, you banged her friend....you got something out of the deal.

 

[itishe]

For those wanting more information:

She's a virgin
Very self-concious
A few of her friends tell me that she wants "trust and a relationship" before she'll put out.


I'm pretty sure she liked me by the way she flat out sent me a text early on in our dating saying, "I want you bad", and not to mention her crying after we talked about it. I swear some of you go to the farthest extremes.

More I think about it, I'm sure I do like her beyond her body otherwise I wouldn't care as I usually don't when I fool around with a slut. I wouldn't mind to get into something with her but she needs to realize I'm not going to wait around like her other friends boyfriends do. (One of them waited 5 months for sex!!!).

Anyways I think my strategy of leaving her alone/ignoring her for a while will do the trick. I'm not gonna crawl on my knees to her nor am I going to become a *****-whipped school boy in order to pay my dues for what I've done.

 

[ConantheLibertarian]

I think you mentioned she was a virgin in your other thread, you could have done with mentioning it here. Well there you go, it's her belief that sex comes in a committed relationship, not on a whim. It's not a huge mystery as to why she has not had sex with you yet. So to paraphrase Last Man, you are not the next pimp in line, but the first!!!!!!!

 

[itishe]

What would you guys do? I know if I keep trying to reach out to her she's gonna think she's got power, but if I lay back too far she'll probably move on.

Haha perhaps I should of denied the whole thing.

 

[itishe]

Well I think this one is pretty much over.

We talked today on the phone, she doesn't say much as usual. She tells me she wants to drink tonight for her birthday and is asking me if I had any plans to drink anywhere. I really didn't have plans since I have to work at 7 tomorrow.

Later in the day she tells me she is going to drink with her friends at a big party, and she tells me she will call me when it starts.

Well I know the party has started and I get no call from her. I take it she no longer has interest or is playing games either way **** it. Time to move on.

 

[itishe]

Well ended up going out to the party after she asked us to come out. So a bud and I went out there.

Have a few drinks, socialize, and I give her the birthday present. We make out for a little bit and head back to the party. That one dude who brought my ex-gf to another party that one night is hitting on my girl big time this night. I don't know if he's doing this because the chicks I'm seeing are good looking or he's out to get me. Anywho when his pale ass rolls up I go find other chicks to talk to. I catch her glimpsing over at me a few times.

I tell her after a while that I'm taking off to go home, she says she's coming with me to my vehicle because she's gotta use the bathroom. She ends up staying there to talk with that guy and a few other people.

I text her to call me when she takes off. She texts me later saying she's leaving so I call her and ask if she wants to come over, she says yes. She's still mad about the whole incident so she's acting distant and uninterested by the way she replies to what I say with one or two words. By the morning though I have her smiling, laughing, and we're constantly kissing.

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No DJ has yet replied how he would repair a relationship in my situation.

I was dating her, but to her it was basically going out. She was devestated by me banging my ex (her friend). I thought the best way to go about it was to apologize. No one criticized so I think that was the best route. Now that we made nice I'll let her contact me.

 

[BlahBBlah]

Cut contact with her. Don't waste your time.

 

[MacDiddy]

No DJ has yet replied how he would repair a relationship in my situation.

Thats coz no DJ would care to repair such a relationship... just move on.. but you probably won't listen..