For a long time you know what held me back from women more than women themselves? Men. That's right, men.
For a long time I thought it was because of the people I was friends with, and although they did play a factor, as with most things, the problem came from within. I cared too much about what my male counterparts thought about me doing with girls. I felt like I had some kind of expectations to live up to, and worried if I was an alpha male. The irony is, being an alpha male means not caring about any of those things. Being an alpha male is acting how you want to, when you want to, within some reason of course.
What I have learned, is that with girls, and people in general, it is most important to establish a one-on-one understanding with the person you are dealing with. You cannot think about what people will think of you, or if some girl will approve of your friends. What matters is how you make a person feel, and knowing that you alone can make things happen for yourself.
You cannot go out at night hoping your friends will get girls that you can hang out with. And you cannot worry about societal factors restricting you from being with a girl you want to be with. You have to remember that you can make anything happen, or at least try to make anything happen. And realizing that is the greatest victory.
It is scary to move forward and truly take your social life by the horns and control every aspect of it yourself. However it is the only way to achieve real liberation. Once you realize that you can make anything happen by taking a chance, it is extremely empowering.
YOU HAVE TO ACT IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT. The heat of the moment is everything. When a conversation with a girl is going well, or your feeling some attraction, escalate situations right then and there. Do not leave thinking you are a challenge or something, and plot your next move after viewing your target's high attraction level. Cause chances are if you do that, the attraction that was once there, will diminish. The sexual atmosphere you established that got your hopes up, will be gone. What matters is NOW. You really got to seize the moment and go with the flow. If you do that, life becomes like a drug.
Think about a night when you were just the man. You don't really know how you did it. But things just seemed to go well, and everything had a happy ending. Chances are, you weren't really concious of what you were doing either. You were just going with the flow and seeing where it would take you. That is what you must try to do. You must try to make each day a day to remember. And if you do that, eventually each day will become a day to remember. It is almost an exhausting task, but it is a worth it task. It is the way to become the man, and act like a leader. It If you become self-reliant, it is the best thing you will ever do for yourself.
For a long time I thought it was because of the people I was friends with, and although they did play a factor, as with most things, the problem came from within. I cared too much about what my male counterparts thought about me doing with girls. I felt like I had some kind of expectations to live up to, and worried if I was an alpha male. The irony is, being an alpha male means not caring about any of those things. Being an alpha male is acting how you want to, when you want to, within some reason of course.
What I have learned, is that with girls, and people in general, it is most important to establish a one-on-one understanding with the person you are dealing with. You cannot think about what people will think of you, or if some girl will approve of your friends. What matters is how you make a person feel, and knowing that you alone can make things happen for yourself.
You cannot go out at night hoping your friends will get girls that you can hang out with. And you cannot worry about societal factors restricting you from being with a girl you want to be with. You have to remember that you can make anything happen, or at least try to make anything happen. And realizing that is the greatest victory.
It is scary to move forward and truly take your social life by the horns and control every aspect of it yourself. However it is the only way to achieve real liberation. Once you realize that you can make anything happen by taking a chance, it is extremely empowering.
YOU HAVE TO ACT IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT. The heat of the moment is everything. When a conversation with a girl is going well, or your feeling some attraction, escalate situations right then and there. Do not leave thinking you are a challenge or something, and plot your next move after viewing your target's high attraction level. Cause chances are if you do that, the attraction that was once there, will diminish. The sexual atmosphere you established that got your hopes up, will be gone. What matters is NOW. You really got to seize the moment and go with the flow. If you do that, life becomes like a drug.
Think about a night when you were just the man. You don't really know how you did it. But things just seemed to go well, and everything had a happy ending. Chances are, you weren't really concious of what you were doing either. You were just going with the flow and seeing where it would take you. That is what you must try to do. You must try to make each day a day to remember. And if you do that, eventually each day will become a day to remember. It is almost an exhausting task, but it is a worth it task. It is the way to become the man, and act like a leader. It If you become self-reliant, it is the best thing you will ever do for yourself.