Hey guys so im 16 years old and ive never had a girlfriend but ive hooked up with a couple. So i was sent to wilderness therapy camp for 2 months for basically being a fu**-up, and there were no girls there. So ive been back home for about a month and theres this one girl that i realllly like. I've been talking to her a good amount since ive been back and she has shown interest a bunch of times. However, recently shes just been ignoring me and not talking to me. So i have 2 things i want to ask, 1. How should i handle the situation with her, so that we may become boyfriend/girlfriend 2. what are the basics of attraction and "game" in a really simple explanation. I mean im actually quite handsome, but for some reason this girl just wont go for me. after i noticed that she was showing interest, i naturally started to ask her to hang out. she has blown me off like 2 or 3 times now and ever since shes been kinda ignoring me. thanks
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The basics of game
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dude, you're 16.
This is gonna sound corny and gay, but honestly just have fun with life right now and focus on school when its around.
Girl's are attracted to guys that have fun -- There is no set "game" to play, other then the fact that the #1 focus in your life should not be a girl. Check out the DJ bible and common cases by nismo-4, that should give you a headsup.
You want those girls to have the same mentality as you? it's not going to happen unless they are slutty. When I was 16 all I could think about was getting my **** sucked - and the only ones that were responsive to that were the ones I just had fun with.
This is gonna sound corny and gay, but honestly just have fun with life right now and focus on school when its around.
Girl's are attracted to guys that have fun -- There is no set "game" to play, other then the fact that the #1 focus in your life should not be a girl. Check out the DJ bible and common cases by nismo-4, that should give you a headsup.
You want those girls to have the same mentality as you? it's not going to happen unless they are slutty. When I was 16 all I could think about was getting my **** sucked - and the only ones that were responsive to that were the ones I just had fun with.
I think you've been too keen and that's a turn off for some women. I expect every ounce of you is wanting to contact her and chase her, don't.
My advice? One of the following:
1. Ignore her! Seriously. Without doubt the most successful technique for a woman who has lost interest.
2. Find another woman and flaunt it. Women are territorial in relation to their suitors. If she thinks she's lost an admirer to a competitor she'll try to get you back.
My advice? One of the following:
1. Ignore her! Seriously. Without doubt the most successful technique for a woman who has lost interest.
2. Find another woman and flaunt it. Women are territorial in relation to their suitors. If she thinks she's lost an admirer to a competitor she'll try to get you back.
youngmack
Master Don Juan
Yo homie, i just turned 17 like some weeks ago so i could give you some advice. Unlike you i have some experience. TRSX is right homie. focus on your life first get good grades and be come the best version of your self as can be. You come first girls come second.Thats one mistake i made and now i have extreme oneitis.
As for the girls now the best thing to do is develop as state of mind of emotional detachment. Dont expect anything from girls and you wont be disappointed. Being outcome independent is real good.
Ight as for "game".It go like this. Girls look at it as a game. They love the idea of chasing a guy and getting him to commit. Once the guy shes trying to get to commit actually commits its all over. She no longer shes the fun in it, you're no longer a challenge/ mystery and she wil dog you. How do you become a challenge/mystery? By working on yourself and showing girls that you dont need them and you have more value then them.Dont always be available to them all the time, and even ignoring them will indicate that you are a challenge. YOU HAVE TO BE SCARCE!
More tips:
-NEVER confess your feelings to a girl...NEVER.
-Also dont text them alot. Only use texting as a means to set up dates and building a little rapport (conenction) and when you do on these dates, you MUST fun and the date must be fun.
- JUDGE A GIRL BY HER ACTIONS NOT WORDS.(what girls say and do are lightyears apart bruh.)
-SPIN PLATES. This is probably the most important aspect of the game. HAVE OPTIONS. ALL GIRLS HAVE OPTIONS AND YOU SHOULD TO!.
As for that current girl shes not interested move on bro. Theres a difference between testing you and actually blowing you off. This is a lil something. If you need anymore help PM me
As for the girls now the best thing to do is develop as state of mind of emotional detachment. Dont expect anything from girls and you wont be disappointed. Being outcome independent is real good.
Ight as for "game".It go like this. Girls look at it as a game. They love the idea of chasing a guy and getting him to commit. Once the guy shes trying to get to commit actually commits its all over. She no longer shes the fun in it, you're no longer a challenge/ mystery and she wil dog you. How do you become a challenge/mystery? By working on yourself and showing girls that you dont need them and you have more value then them.Dont always be available to them all the time, and even ignoring them will indicate that you are a challenge. YOU HAVE TO BE SCARCE!
More tips:
-NEVER confess your feelings to a girl...NEVER.
-Also dont text them alot. Only use texting as a means to set up dates and building a little rapport (conenction) and when you do on these dates, you MUST fun and the date must be fun.
- JUDGE A GIRL BY HER ACTIONS NOT WORDS.(what girls say and do are lightyears apart bruh.)
-SPIN PLATES. This is probably the most important aspect of the game. HAVE OPTIONS. ALL GIRLS HAVE OPTIONS AND YOU SHOULD TO!.
As for that current girl shes not interested move on bro. Theres a difference between testing you and actually blowing you off. This is a lil something. If you need anymore help PM me
coochieman
Don Juan
Forget this one girl, there is no "one girl".
Lucky you found So-suave at this age, take full advantage of this.
Re-Structure yourself. The younger, the better.
Read all that is recommended to you. Imbibe new values and characteristics into your young self. With the right mindset at 16, you won't go wrong. You'd be years ahead of your peers.
Start with the DJ Bible.
Lucky you found So-suave at this age, take full advantage of this.
Re-Structure yourself. The younger, the better.
Read all that is recommended to you. Imbibe new values and characteristics into your young self. With the right mindset at 16, you won't go wrong. You'd be years ahead of your peers.
Start with the DJ Bible.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thanks a lot man, thats helpful ****youngmack said:
For some reason i can't pm you so, where can i find more stuff like what you just told me in a simple and straightforward form? What u said really struck home for me and i want to learn more about it
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
Youngmack is spot on. Fvck I wish I'd found this site when I was a teenager.
Anyway, OP. Read the DJ Bible which is stickied at the top of this forum and the one at the top of the "Mature Man" forum.
There's a lot to read but it's solid gold.
Also, read as much as you can of Rollo Tomassi and Heartiste.
As for this chick you're chasing, she's flaked mate. I think you probably came across as too eager.
The key is balance. Be available one day but not the next.
Hint that there are other women on the scene but don't flaunt it in front of her, be subtle and sarcastic.
Don't respond to women's bvllsht temper tantrums or shyt tests and don't be a slave to your d1ck.
Don't be the guy who will compromise everything just to fvck a chick who isn't worthy.
Stay in shape. No need to have rippling abs and a chest you could crack nuts on (it fvckin helps though!! Lol) but stay trim and maintain some definition in your arms and around your jawline.
Lastly, there is no magic formula that will suddenly make you popular with women, you're gonna have to get out there and make a lot of mistakes before you'll "get it".
Anyway, OP. Read the DJ Bible which is stickied at the top of this forum and the one at the top of the "Mature Man" forum.
There's a lot to read but it's solid gold.
Also, read as much as you can of Rollo Tomassi and Heartiste.
As for this chick you're chasing, she's flaked mate. I think you probably came across as too eager.
The key is balance. Be available one day but not the next.
Hint that there are other women on the scene but don't flaunt it in front of her, be subtle and sarcastic.
Don't respond to women's bvllsht temper tantrums or shyt tests and don't be a slave to your d1ck.
Don't be the guy who will compromise everything just to fvck a chick who isn't worthy.
Stay in shape. No need to have rippling abs and a chest you could crack nuts on (it fvckin helps though!! Lol) but stay trim and maintain some definition in your arms and around your jawline.
Lastly, there is no magic formula that will suddenly make you popular with women, you're gonna have to get out there and make a lot of mistakes before you'll "get it".