The attention women get is breaking my morale

[AttackFormation]

The breaking point was when I was on badoo and I thought I saw a girl who goes to my gym, one or a few years older than me I don't remember. This girl is overweight which is what I like but most guys don't, but she's at best completely plain and probably more on the ugly side and doesn't have a good body shape so I would never consider hitting on her. And there are many like her...

Even THIS girl who you'd think no man would want unless he knew it was her or nothing, gets more matches and messages than she can handle when she goes online. A man has to be attractive just as a prerequisite to start putting in effort, a woman just needs to make the fact that she has a pvssy known and she's going to drown in attention that comes to her.

How the f*ck are you supposed to make an impression on a girl who ISN'T ugly or suffers from some kind of personality disorder when she gets 10 new messages every day? even if you ARE attractive it's going to make it much harder.

It's starting to chip at my confidence, thoughts like "what's the point, she probably has a boyfriend anyway" or if she's single "I'm just gonna join the rest of her orbiters" are appearing in my head. There's this girl I want to hit on who works at the cinema I went to yesterday but I can't help but feel dissuaded about it, I feel like it's just going to be another drop in the ocean where I can go swim with the rest of the guys giving her attention.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

The highest quality chicks wont be online. They don't need it.

Ask yourself if the reason you are online looking for women is because you are not confident enough in your own abilities to meet someone in out in the real world. Ask yourself why you are interested in the fortunes of a 'plain' chick, when you should be primarily concerned with your own.

Online dating makes us lazy, resentful of those that aren't interested, and damaged by lack of success. It also places unrealistic expectation on meeting someone, rather than forgetting about the whole thing and embracing the serendipity of actually meeting someone by chance.

Online dating also removes a lot of the mystery, which is your secret weapon, in every sense.

I deleted my OKC account this morning in fact. I don't need it, and to be honest, the quality does not really meet my standard.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

ADAPT

Dump online and attack where are vunerable - real life.Hitting on chick in real life will get her so much dopamine rush she will dump all the online losers instantly.

 

[Zarky]

OP, at your age yeah, you're at the bottom and even the dumpiest chicks are above you. But if you stay alive and out of jail through your 20s, you'll see when you hit 30 that the roles start to reverse.

The ages of 21 through about 28 were awful for me, with regard to women.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Quit online dating unless you're top 5% in terms of look, as you said the attention the average to ugly girls get makes it impossible, to that add it that most girls go there just for attention wh0ring and ego stroke.

The only way I would do it would be to make a profile with some good pictures and let it sit here, just checking once in a while if some girl writes.

Badoo its a joke anyway, most of the profiles of girls are deleted but the system keeps using them, if you have superpowers and you dont renew them in few hours you get "girls interested in you" that of course you can see
only if you pay again..what a coincidence.

I even found a girl I know there and asked her why she is there and she told that she doesnt use it from months, same with an other girl which is studying abroad yet on badoo appears in my city, both their profiles were empty except the profile picture.

 

[collosuss]

No offense bro but u sound mentally weak and u are putting women on a pedastal. Your main goal should be to talk to as many women as possible anywhere and f*ck them if they meet YOUR criteria. Once u f*ck them good and get them to invest time and money with you then you will be in control...

 

[bigneil]

I don't do online dating because I could never pick up women even 10 years younger, nevermind 20+ years younger, while online. And that's assuming they are as hot as they pretend to be! Meanwhile, in my first month in a new state, I had to turn down 3 girls who were ages 19 and 20 because they were too young. And these were women who I originally approached, only to discover (upon succeeding) they were much younger than expected.

However, I am certainly used to dating women who get hit on a lot by other men. With my current girl I would go to the restroom and I'd come back and she'd have an entourage of handsome men. They want you to know this because they leverage it for more control.

But remember that this is how every moment of her life has been, which is a credit to the fact that they chose us to begin with.

As my dad said: if you don't want competition, date a fat girl.

 

[buzzin_frog]

You have serious problems if you are worked up over a fat girl who goes online to get hit on!!

The dudes hitting on her online are just as repulsive a she is....she goes online to get an ego boost that she doesn't get offline....that's why those chicks are lifetime online users...no other dude would give her the time of day!!

Most people that use online dating are ugly....most have no good income or jobs....they have all problems.....they can't date offline.....online is their only way!!

I disagree that you only need to be in the top 5% in looks to get dates online...no dude in his right mind that is good looking would waste his time trying to date fat and ugly chicks online!!

There are plenty enough ugly fat dudes to match up with the ugly fat chicks to have a perfect match!!

The problem is the ugly fat dudes and chicks both want an 8....that is never going to happen for them...also because no real 8 is going to go online to get hit on by ugly people!!

Online is a waste of time.....get women from in person meetings....let the others stick to wasting their time online!!

 

[skinnyguy]

Quit online dating unless you're top 5% in terms of look, as you said the attention the average to ugly girls get makes it impossible, to that add it that most girls go there just for attention wh0ring and ego stroke.

The only way I would do it would be to make a profile with some good pictures and let it sit here, just checking once in a while if some girl writes.

Badoo its a joke anyway, most of the profiles of girls are deleted but the system keeps using them, if you have superpowers and you dont renew them in few hours you get "girls interested in you" that of course you can see
only if you pay again..what a coincidence.

I even found a girl I know there and asked her why she is there and she told that she doesnt use it from months, same with an other girl which is studying abroad yet on badoo appears in my city, both their profiles were empty except the profile picture.

Yep.

You're wasting your time on that gay site if you're not very good looking.