"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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the attention seeking phase

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Did anyone ever go through this phaze?? were you needed approval from women to make you feel better? and you'd get angry when they didnt? so you did every thing to look your best(which is impossible by the way)
and spen hours in the mirror before going out? spent tons on mens grroming stuff? and worst of all expecting stares from women when out..but getting pissed off and depressed when you never got that attention?..showing off your abs or chest unecessarilly when walkng the streets after a session at the gym, wearing insanely tight muscle shirts. i know guys that get pissed of when they see me talking to a girl.. and i dont even know these guys. i always wanted to be that guy that didnt give a damn about wat anyone thought about me. and im getting thier thank god. not by choice but due to life experiences. can you actively over this thing?

if you going through this phaze.. dosnt it after your life? and if you'v been there how did you overcome it?

lets be real we have got male attention *****s too. and i was on of them..it got to the point i'd hate a girl for not liking me.. i used to only like girls that stared at me. or acknowledging my beauty lol.

thats the thing about vanity,you can get to the point where enough is never enough. and i think most guys at the gyms ahve this problem..but you won/t admitt.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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thats brave, most men will not admit that lol.

its natural i guess,..especially if your known to be the pretty boy everygirl, gave attention to. im in the same boat-but you said you over came it? howd' you do that? its like i work out alott and i also get attention from women. but the days i dont get it, i go to the gym and pump more iron.is this some kind of personality disorder...?..i know women go through this type of things..
thats what happens when you base your hope on your looks.. you rely on it too much and you will be unhappy.
 

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it's more do do with the current state of society, like i said men dont need to be overgroomed except they are hidous. we basically need to look and sell clean, thats it. but we take it too far with the grooming these days. if its a personality disoder, then its not of out making but of us being a product of our environment, and we unplugg from that false notion when something drastic happens to us, we then see the world for what it is and focus on what really matters. being a pretty boy did me no favours back then, im talking just 2 years ago,if anything focusing on my looks to much ,made me ignore other important things in my life,and im glad i snapped out early enough.
on the other hand could me a mental problem arising from society at large and how we wana all impress.

even trying to play the opposite of the muss, the bad boy image is also an sttention seeking behaviour, it still boils down to the fact that we are trying to impress women,rather than being happy within ourselfs first.

this should explain a certain type of behaviour some men have but will not admit,and most women have this more than men.the roles have beed reversed.
we are now on the recieving end and women now judge use on looks as we have been doing for many years. so we are experiecing wat some women do go through. which we shouldnt because we are men. and you can blame the feminist movement and the sexuall eagerness of men to blame for this. we partly created this shiiiiit by palying thier games. and putting -up with nonesen just to get that puzzy.
here's an example of a peronilty disoder.

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Many of us desire the admiration of others, but Histrionic personalities have an unhealthy need for constant attention and engage in outrageous behavior to get it.
What is Histrionic Personality Disorder?
To be histrionic is to behave melodramatically—over the top. People with the psychological disorder HPD, have a personality based on histrionic behavior; constantly displaying an excessive level of emotionality.

Histrionics crave the limelight and constantly seek attention and approval. They tend to dominate conversations using grandiose language and frequent interruptions. Those with HPD can be manipulative—negative attention being better than no attention at all (Dobbert 2007, Horowitz 2001).

Diagnosis of HPD
There are currently 10 conditions considered to be personality disorders, some of which have very little in common. Mental health professionals typically group those PDs that share characteristics into one of three clusters. Histrionic is a Cluster B Personality Disorder, a class which also contains Antisocial, Borderline and Narcissistic PD; all three distinguished by dramatic, emotional or erratic behavior.

HPD is only diagnosed when the characteristic behaviors are pervasive and disabling. According to the DSM-IV-TR (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), a patient must fit at least five of the following criteria in order to be diagnosed with Histrionic Personality Disorder:

uncomfortable in situations when not the center of attention
social interactions often characterized by inappropriate sexually provocative behavior
rapidly shifting and shallow expression of emotions
consistently uses physical appearance to draw attention to self
style of speech that lacks detail and is excessively emotional
shows self-dramatization, theatricality, and exaggerated expression of emotion
easily influenced by others or circumstances
considers relationships to be more intimate than they actually are
Prevalence of Histrionic Personality
HPD has been estimated to occur in 2% to 3% of the general population and is more common among women (NESARC 2002).

Cause and Course of HPD
While the exact cause is not yet known, the disorder is exacerbated during increased times of stress and interpersonal difficulties. As is the case with most personality disorders, Histrionic Personality Disorder usually begins in early adulthood, and has a chronic course (Dobbert 2007, Horowitz 2001.

Treatment of Histrionic Disorder
Psychotherapy

Because personality is such an integral part of what defines our identity, PDs are characteristically difficult to treat. Individual psychotherapy, focused on increasing coping mechanisms and interpersonal skills appears to be the most effective course of treatment. Group therapy is generally not recommended for Histrionic patients, since their attention-seeking behavior can monopolize the session.

Suicidal gestures and self-mutilation, as attention-seeking behaviors, are often associated with HPD. Even if death is not the patent’s intention, it may be the result, so any expressed thoughts or plans of suicide should be taken very seriously.

The characteristic emotional neediness of Histrionics can result in an over-reliance on the therapist and reluctant to terminate therapy. Long-term psychotherapy can be financially prohibitive and is unlikely to resolve the deep-rooted issues of personality. The recommended course of treatment is short-term and focused on dealing with immediate stressors and difficulties within the person's life.

HPD and Medication

Psychiatric medications are not typically used to alleviate the personality disorder itself, but may be used to treat associated disorders such as anxiety or depression. Physicians should be cautious when prescribing to those with Histrionic Personality Disorder due to the possibility that the patient may use the medication inappropriately in the commission of self-destructive, harmful behaviors (Dobbert 2007, Horowitz 2001).

Information on Personality Disorders
There are numerous on-line and in print resources with additional information on personality disorders, including: Psychology Prof Online, PsychCentral and the article Types of Personality Disorders: Borderline, Narcissistic, Obsessive-Compulsive & Associated Clusters.
 
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