The "Ask her Why Me" Tip is HORRIBLE. NEVER ask her that. Shows Insecurity

[NeverFear]

I couldnt believe my eyes. That author is advocating asking a woman "Why did you say yes to going out with me?"

His advice is really really awful.

NEVER ask a woman that. Because it reveals insecurity.

Woman HATE insecurity.

By the way, I actually DID ask a woman a variation on that before, along the lines of "so are you attracted to me like im attracted to you?"

Totally backfired. Never had another date.

See, youre supposed to be SO CONFIDENT that you ASSUME the woman is attracted. You dont have to ask why.

Its like fishing.

Its the worst advice ive seen on here.

As a matter of fact i never even ASK a woman EVER if she likes me. And I DONT TELL HER either.

A huge part of the game is that you actually "GET IT".

Get it that it is unspoken.

The minute you start blabbing **** about "do you like me" the game is over. Challenge gone.

If anything LET HER TELL YOU SHE LIKES YOU. By herself.

Then give a smile like you knew it all along.

And DONT tell her the same thing. Make her wait it out.

 

[shiningshadow]

Wait, that was a tip? It totally sucks, why would anyone attempt it?

 

[SeldomSeen]

RE:

I would never ask why me because to me it sets off a red flag. Imagine if you got a good job and then you say to the employer "really?!!!! Why me?!!! Awesome!!!" He's going to be like uh oh! What is wrong with this guy. One thing I do ask about carefully is what happened with the last guy (and maybe the guy before that) trying to figure out where he went wrong and what he did to screw it up but I do it very cautiously.

 

[Phat]

My girlfriend asks me this all the time. I just never give her an answere. she be like "So did you like me before you asked me out" . haha i just tell her to shut the **** up. And she be like "finnee" haha yeh then it be alll good.

 

[DDevil]

Is it ok to ask that after you break up?

ex. Now that were not in a ralationship anymore , what made you attracted to me and where did I **** up?

 

[LongDrinkofWater]

By the way, I actually DID ask a woman a variation on that before, along the lines of "so are you attracted to me like im attracted to you?"

Well, that certianly isn't the way to say it. All she's going to hear is you saying you like her (before she considers thinking about why she said yes to a date).

 

[MightyMate]

Of course girls hate insecurity.

 

[Duke]

I agree, the "why me" tip is garbage. It puts her in the frame of being the prize.

Asking "why me" implies the metaframe: "a lot of guys want you, since you are hot... why did you choose me, since obviously I can't see why a queen like you would choose a nobody like me."

GARBAGE. For those who don't know, this is on sosuave.com's home page currently.

 

[Phat]

Ok its not that hard why she is going out with you... OBVIOUSLY BECAUSE SHE F'N LIKES U.. ahaha duh

 

[diablo]

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