“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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The art of war

playa99

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I'm currently reading the art of war and it's turning out to be a revelation for me.. It's getting me closer to being a "master DJ"

I would recommend it as a must read for anyone looking to improve themselves, it can help give you insights into a lot!

It can relate to anything..

A lot of what I've taken out of it is that you've got to know what your up against, use the natural strengths of your surroundings and be very aware of the weaknesses, a failure to prepare means you must be prepared to fail.

My recent experiences with work and life in general have taught me that you've got to trust your gut feeling and not let things eat you up inside, this is the worst thing you can do.. look at the AFC.. He clings on to his feelings for a woman falling deeper and deeper until he implodes, tells her how he feels and gets upset... this doesn't just relate to dating... IT RELATES TO EVERYTHING.

If things are eating you up inside you gotta express it, but you gotta be calculated.. look at what your up against and base your approach on this.

A lot of college guys (me included when I was in college.) get a lot of success because it's an even playing field (ish.) what I mean is that your all kind of in the same boat at college.. Status is less relevant because it hold's less bearing to where you actually are.. your all students. Equally most people are young and on a learning curve so sex/relationships are easier to find!

When you out of college and in the real world you gotta be above the bubble, take status out of it, its deep set confidence when you have the security in yourself to not be looking over the fence at other people. The way to get there is to be patient and find your own passions, that's not for me or anyone else to define, to find answers within is the first step to getting that confidence.

There's always gonna be a guy with tighter game or more money or a nicer car than you.. if your focused on yourself only and having your own goals to work towards then you can only be successful.

What does success mean to you?

Some people its banging 50 women a year, some guys it's finding marriage.

Its up to you to decide..
 

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hmmm curious I never really though of using it for dating..., guess I should read it again with new eyes
 

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I've read it, and I endorse it. It's like one big metaphor for life. A little macaveillian at times, but lots of knowledge, laid out in laymans terms. It's really just up to you to relate the material to every day life.

I believe there's two schools of thought on here when it comes to dealing with women.

1 - Do whatever you're going to do, don't put up with her crap, you lead, she follows, and if she doesn't follow, then tell her to get out of the way.

or

2 - Understand her. Still don't put up with her crap, but know why she does certain things. If you know for instance, why she got mad at you for something (the real reason), then it's easier to deal with it. Vs. just telling her to "deal with it."

I like to know chic's moves. I like to see them coming ahead of time. It's an empowering feeling knowing how she's going to act before she does it. It's not really a way to control her, but more of a way to deal with her. Chick's do chick $hit, some of it you can put under the "chick $hit" category, and some of it you can put in the "unacceptable behavior" category. There's a difference. Some guys are more tolerable than others.

Anyways, I feel it can be related to women on many levels and I've used quotes from the Art of War, 2nd paragraph.:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=2113985&postcount=25

I paraphrased this one here: "Know thy self, know thy enemy. A thousand battles, a thousand victories." - Sun Tzu

Probably one of the most popular quotes from the book.

And, once you read it you'll start to recognize how often in mainstream they actually are used. Way back in the day when I watching The Sopranos, I even recognized Paulie quoting the book.

I might have to read it again, it's been a while.
 

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I'm reading it page by page, analyzing a page a day letting it all sink in, there's a lot for your brain to process when you really look into it..

It's enlightened me in a major way.. It's like its slotted the pieces of the puzzle together!
 
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