I need to read this book.
Anyway just a cautionary tale. So Ive been single for over two months, scored my first hottie about three weeks ago and closed the deal on the first date. Off to a great start. Second date my place for dinner, closed the deal, third date off to a art gallery (not my thing but Im not there for the art), closed the deal.
Now things are going great, shes amazing in bed and Im feeling great about myself. I decide early on to leverage the boost to my ego and see what else I can spin up with limited success. Meanwhile as I do this I notice her attention slipping, been here before so I let her stale out somewhat and focus on other opportunities again with limited success.
Then I see her fulling slipping (saw her create a new profile on tinder) so I call her out on it, she rings me straight up and tries to explain. I act cool and can tell shes not overly invested in the situation, then I start to lose it. I ask her whats happening with her, she admits to being interested in someone else, I get buthurt and judgy and she hangs up on me.
Now I know everything I did wrong, I know if I had played cool I could have probably got laid a few more times but here I am acting like a needy little b!tch with the typical outcome I should know better by now to avoid by having some self control.
On one hand I justify it to myself by saying I set a boundary (one that hypocritically I didnt set for myself) that she crossed. That Im better off without her and can go on to something better. On the other I think wtf did I just blow that up for no reason. I also wonder if I should try and salvage it with a follup text and what that would look like, an apology seems weak.
Perhaps something like "Hey X, Ive had time to think about the other night, I regret the way I handled it but no hard feelings, hope it all works out and if not give me a call".
That also seems pathetic. What do you think.
Anyway just a cautionary tale. So Ive been single for over two months, scored my first hottie about three weeks ago and closed the deal on the first date. Off to a great start. Second date my place for dinner, closed the deal, third date off to a art gallery (not my thing but Im not there for the art), closed the deal.
Now things are going great, shes amazing in bed and Im feeling great about myself. I decide early on to leverage the boost to my ego and see what else I can spin up with limited success. Meanwhile as I do this I notice her attention slipping, been here before so I let her stale out somewhat and focus on other opportunities again with limited success.
Then I see her fulling slipping (saw her create a new profile on tinder) so I call her out on it, she rings me straight up and tries to explain. I act cool and can tell shes not overly invested in the situation, then I start to lose it. I ask her whats happening with her, she admits to being interested in someone else, I get buthurt and judgy and she hangs up on me.
Now I know everything I did wrong, I know if I had played cool I could have probably got laid a few more times but here I am acting like a needy little b!tch with the typical outcome I should know better by now to avoid by having some self control.
On one hand I justify it to myself by saying I set a boundary (one that hypocritically I didnt set for myself) that she crossed. That Im better off without her and can go on to something better. On the other I think wtf did I just blow that up for no reason. I also wonder if I should try and salvage it with a follup text and what that would look like, an apology seems weak.
Perhaps something like "Hey X, Ive had time to think about the other night, I regret the way I handled it but no hard feelings, hope it all works out and if not give me a call".
That also seems pathetic. What do you think.
