"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The art of being Tyler Durden

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This is going to sound like a joke. A farce. A mockery. But stay with me here fellow DJ's.............

I'll be brief..........

1. Fight Club has been a proverbial favorite movie of mine for many years.

2. I want to model my INNER/OUTER game after one TYLER DURDEN. Not the PUA. But the character depicted in the movie.

3. Lets call it the "Tyler Durden Experiment" It's going to be an 9 month progression until I embody all that is the legendary TD.

Heres what i need from my fellow DJ's

1. What if any precedent is there in the DJ community for an experiment like this. In otherwords has any one else done something to this effect.

2. What will I have to do/read/research/study in order to have the inner game of a Tyler Durdne.

3. What resources should I locate to model my outer game after Tyler Durden? I don't want to dress exactly like the movie character. But would love to model my fashion sense after him. Does anyone have links, tips, ideas?

4. Don't respond if you are going to be negative.

5. Please respond if you have some good ideas or can offer support.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Trust me you don't want to be Tyler. Tyler is a guy that was confused his whole life and kept getting knocked down and knocked down until he stopped caring, and realized the brutal truths about our society, and he rebeled accordingly (and justly in my not so humble opinion). Tyler is damaged.

Let's clear this up:

-Is he cool? Yeah, and suave, and witty, and takes control. Imagine how cool he would be if he wasn't damaged emotionally.

-Did he see through baloney? Yes, half because his whole life was based on bull. He throws out bull, he sees who is really on the "level" and sees how things are done covertly.

-Is he a crook? Yeah, he is a covert criminal. These types of guys have done some of the worst stuff in human history. The Nazi Gestapo or however you spell it, all Covert Tyler types, rebelling just like Tyler for being suppressed after world war 1 and having to live in poverty. They were so evil and dominate evil that they still are talked about today with taboo. The SS? For Christ Sake, have you ever seen these guys facial expressions? ****iest, coolest, smoothest people you'll ever see. ALL LIKE TYLER DURDEN. He had a good message in the movie Fight Club, which is to know how things really are, and deal accordingly. But, you do not want to be like Tyler, trust me.
 

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Good advice. Infact I've been reading this forum for a while and you usually have very good viewpoints.

However my situation is very similar to what I envisioned Tylers was. I was abandoned by both my parents. Raised by my grandma who one hand was caring but on the other hand viewed me as a black sheep. I was a troublemaker and still am.

In my eyes I already have alot of the mental make up of a Durden. I just want to fully embody the lifestyle. Maybe it seems like a joke. But I'm an actor by trade and want to engross myself in another persona that is similar to mine.

Hey...Jag. Send me your AIM or MSN name. I've got a few questions.
 

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It's an awesome character.

But you'll be acting anyways. So what's the use? You'll just be imitating him, and people will see right through it.

It's amovie too. It's impossible to be exactly like him. In real life, you live in that **** house and take baths in **** water, you're gonna get sick. Then you need to go to the doctor, then you need insurance, etc,etc. You steal that Camaro at the airport and you get arrested and go to jail for 10 years. This is the real world.

Just take the good qualities from him. Mainly be less reliant/attached on material things.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm really not trying to live the Tyler Durden lifestyle to a T

but i want to incorporate some of his inner/outer game.

does anyone know some good vintage spots online that i could check for gear?
 

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My aim is ItsMikeGarcia


btw, if you're already headed in that path, realize there's two ways to have power in your position... only problem is the hardest and most powerful position is going to suck for a while until you raise up more.

Best analagy that comes to mind is the guy making subs for a living who can either rebel and start doing low level crime, or he can stay with the stupid job and one day work for the boss and his side job in the mob...

this is a horrible analogy, but I think you get what i'm saying. The best things in life come with time. Or you could say live life in the fast lane, up to you.
 

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I haven't seen fight club in years, but after hearing your guys' perspectives I think I will watch the movie with them in mind.
 

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I think what you're talking about is a good case of "modeling." I model all the time. I'm not sure if it was somebody on here or somebody on ASF (or maybe even D.Deangelo), but they talk about finding those with traits or characteristics that you find attractive and you APPLY them to your life.

I understand what the person was saying when they replied to you saying you'd just be acting. I know what he was getting at, and I do believe there is a very fine line between acting and modeling and many DO cross that line, but... BUT I know from experience that -- when done correctly -- it can really have a positive impact on life and how you live it.

I'll find myself watching a movie and I'll like the delivery of a line and I'll borrow that DELIVERY (the rhythm, the pitch, the tonality, etc) and use it in everyday conversations with very positive results. Sometimes I'll even steal a line from a movie, but it helps to do it with more obscure movies, not the current number one film in America (only because it'll just sound like you're mimicking the current catchphrase).

I'm getting off on a tangent here, so let me get back to the Tyler Durden thing. Anytime I watch Fight Club, I always pick up something new. I start to see things in a new light. I even got a replica of the Paper Street Soap Company business card that Tyler gives to...well...himself! I got that on Ebay, you'll see it if you look for it. So, now when a girl asks me THE question ("What do you do?") I give her the card, smirk and say, "Soap.. I make and I sell soap. The yardstick of civilization." It always gets a laugh. And of course I follow it up with Tyler's "You got kind of a sick desperation in your laugh." So, yeah, I use a lot of Tyler's game. As for his wardrobe, I'm not sure how they wardrobe department found most of his stuff, because I have never seen anything close to it in all of the stores I have shopped at!

I've been following his (or in a way Chuck Pahlaniuk's) philosophies for SOME aspects of life (because if I just followed his exact philosophy and mentality, THAT would be acting -- not modeling) for a long time. I've been using Vince Vaughn's line "I like where your head is at" that he's used in both Mr. and Mrs. Smith AND Wedding Crashers all the time now.
I love borrowing lines, or mindframes, or line deliveries that I see in celebrity interviews and use them.

I think this could be a fun experiment. Keep us posted on how it changes you, positively or negatively. I've thought about adopting the Trent Walker character from Swingers and just "run with it" (as Tyler would say!). You know how Trent treats all those girls like they are just little kids ("Run along now 'cause I'll be timing you!)? It'd almost be an interesting experiment to "become" a certain character for like one or two week spans at a time while never coming out of character (besides for family who will wonder if you are having a multiple personality disorder!).
 

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hmmm...

would be a great self image study.

are you sure that you can become sombody and not loose who you are?

Could make a decent indi film. Documentry stlye: They Tylor Druden experiment.

Anyway couldn't hurt your acting skills.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DetectiveMills

thats exatcly what I'm talking about. Save for the fact that you spelled out my thoughts and intentions so much more eloquently. Props are due.

This whole Tyler Experience is to break away from the norm. I want to try something different. So many times we get caught up in a rut trying to follow things that work for other people. My theory is that I am inspired by Fight Club and moreso Tyler so I will try to model some of my dialouge, style, and overall "let it slide attitude"

We are all influenced by something. Some may call me a poser for trying to find gear that rivals Durdens but at the end of the day you have to look at yourself and wonder why you do the things you do? Is dressing like every other kid in your school "okay" because it is the safe choice?

The TD experience is all about breaking away from society's self imposed pressures and at the same time shattering my comfort zone.

UPDATES PER REQUEST:

Contemplating the notion of uprooting myself and moving to California.

Gathering information on where to get some Tyler Style gear. (I think this will really change womens sexual states. I'm good looking enough to pull it off but the way i dress now is pretty conservative so I don't peak womens sexual states as much as I should"

And finally I've been on a serious workout program along with limiting mind numbing activities such as TV and Video Games.

So far I'm still in the developmental stages of this experiment. Pictures, Sarge videos and some other goodies will be delivered when I get the whole thing together.
 

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Just a tylder durden fanboy, no? He really really wants to be just like him cause he's so so cool!
 

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1. I wouldn't suggest modeling yourself as Tyler.

2. Stop trying to model your behaviors and beliefs based on another character.

3. You should instead, focus on who you are now, build on your strengths, and improve on your weakenesses.

4. The road to self-improvement shouldn't require a timeframe -- 9 months? that's ridiculous. It needs to just happen gradually, on a day-to-day basis.

5. I know you're inspired by fight club, but try to capitalize off traits that generally does yield positive results, rather than the contrary. So, whatever element you pick up from the movie, use only if it works to your advantage and that you are COMFORTABLE with it. Make sure that others will respond favorably to it to, not wind up repulsed.

It's actually difficult to answer you extensively right now, but if you'd like to chat, hit me up. AIM: Allurre07
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Allurre said:
1. I wouldn't suggest modeling yourself as Tyler.

2. Stop trying to model your behaviors and beliefs based on another character.

3. You should instead, focus on who you are now, build on your strengths, and improve on your weakenesses.

4. The road to self-improvement shouldn't require a timeframe -- 9 months? that's ridiculous. It needs to just happen gradually, on a day-to-day basis.

5. I know you're inspired by fight club, but try to capitalize off traits that generally does yield positive results, rather than the contrary. So, whatever element you pick up from the movie, use only if it works to your advantage and that you are COMFORTABLE with it. Make sure that others will respond favorably to it to, not wind up repulsed.

It's actually difficult to answer you extensively right now, but if you'd like to chat, hit me up. AIM: Allurre07
Dude, this thread is FOUR YEARS OLD. I wonder where the OP is. Prison?
 

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The irony of it all is that Tyler Durden can not be modeled. By modeling one's self after Durden, one becomes everything Durden was against.
 

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****, is this for real?
Look man, I know it's hard to take on the challenge to be better head on, but this has to be one of the weirdest "magic pills" I've even heard about.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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