johnnyhero79
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Hey guys iam curious to know where some of you find it easy to go and meet girls. Do you like going to malls or going to bars better then meeting on the streets?
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The approach: Where do you go to pick up girls?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Egoist
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I forgot who said it, but the thought was that some guys are more comfortable in clubs/bars, others are on the streets/in bookstores/etc
I am much more comfy in bars/clubs for example.. But i have trouble initiating the daytime approaches..
I am much more comfy in bars/clubs for example.. But i have trouble initiating the daytime approaches..
johnnyhero79
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You right about the club and bars because when you drink you become less shy
Egoist
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not because of drinking... i dont have to drink to pick up chicks in bars..Originally posted by johnnyhero79
You right about the club and bars because when you drink you become less shy
its just my playground so to speak..
johnnyhero79
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well why is it when i had 5 drinks i feel happy and iam not scare to talk to girls?
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I generally like to roam the homeless shelters.
I typically approach women at parties/bars/clubs or in class.
I typically approach women at parties/bars/clubs or in class.
Egoist
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thats normalOriginally posted by johnnyhero79
well why is it when i had 5 drinks i feel happy and iam not scare to talk to girls?
BUT
when your game gets better, it wouldnt matter, you are actually going to be better at it and more in control when you're sober.
but yeah, alcohol makes it easier when we are not super-DJs yet.
I approach HB10s with no fear when im just a little, ahem, lubricated. :woo: And I still manage to keep my cool.
But in general, its easier to run good game sober.
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My opinion
Bars and clubs feel much more comfortable to me. Yes, you sometimes get attitude but who cares. Grocery store is OK as long as it's natural. I don't hunt women down the iles like some sort of madman. I just approach them when they happen to be within speaking distance, although I've strategically placed myself and waited or turned corners at just the right time before.
Stop lights are good, especially in summer when many windows are naturally down. College parties are good if you can keep the ratio under control. College quads are good if many people are laying out, you can easily do the freesbe opener here as well. Anywhere that people congregate to smoke will be a friendly atmosphere assuming you can stand kissing an ashtray. Hospitals often make workers smoke in a designated area or off the grounds. Watch where they gather.
You can sarge anywhere. Opportunities are all around you. You must open your eyes to them. Each town will have it's treasures.
Bars and clubs feel much more comfortable to me. Yes, you sometimes get attitude but who cares. Grocery store is OK as long as it's natural. I don't hunt women down the iles like some sort of madman. I just approach them when they happen to be within speaking distance, although I've strategically placed myself and waited or turned corners at just the right time before.
Stop lights are good, especially in summer when many windows are naturally down. College parties are good if you can keep the ratio under control. College quads are good if many people are laying out, you can easily do the freesbe opener here as well. Anywhere that people congregate to smoke will be a friendly atmosphere assuming you can stand kissing an ashtray. Hospitals often make workers smoke in a designated area or off the grounds. Watch where they gather.
You can sarge anywhere. Opportunities are all around you. You must open your eyes to them. Each town will have it's treasures.
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