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[T-Roy]

Hi. I'm kind of confused about how my love life works. If I just meet a girl who has no prior knowledge of me, I can get her to date me really easily and when I break up with them(I know it might sound strange but I normally break up with them.) they always want to date me again, or they say I am their favorite ex.

I still talk to everyone of them and I'm friends with them. If I wanted I could date just about anyone of them again. One of the girls I broke up with, her best friend came up to me and said I was her friends best boy friend ever.

My current girl friend is from Japan and she doesn't understand too much English and she's only staying here for ten months. I'm not bragging. I'm really not. I figure you should know all this to give me an accurate answer.

Now here is the thing I need an answer too. After I've known a woman for awhile. They really don't want to date me. Even if I've hardly ever talked to them. But we've known each other. I would like to know what all this means.

(Also on a completely unrelated topic what's an AFC? I don't really need an answer for this I just want to know.)

 

[MooseGod]

Well, I'll answer your last question first. An AFC is an acronym for "Average Frustrated Chump." You sound to be nothing of the sort.

As for your first question, it sounds like some of your longer-lasting female acquaintances aren't judging you for who you are, but rather who you were in the past. A lot of people aren't insightful enough to realize people change, and that's no fault of your own.

 

[T-Roy]

But this also applies to women whom I've known for a month.

 

[ketostix]

Well I think it's evidence that the statement women often make, "the best realtionships start out as friends". is BS. It's basically been my experience to that if a realtionship doesn't start out from the time you meet a girl it almost never starts out later after becoming "friends. Also, from your experience it would seem not actually being good to a girl is better to them than being good to them, e.g. you break up with the girl then she says you're the best BF she ever had.

 

[T-Roy]

Ok I guess that makes sense. One of my female friends was just saying that it was because I made people feel really comfortable right from the start I have a short time frame to put them into the relationship zone before I get dropped into the 'let's not ruin our friendship' zone.

 

[hell695]

T-roy u no u cant have all of ur x's back so stop bragging second is i believe in let romantic get in the way of friendship if friends y cant u be friends after to eh?