DJHoolahoop
Senior Don Juan
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hey,
i've been having a lot of difficulty lately in landing a chick. i've been noticing that although i've really been working on myself and improving my life. that its a lot easier to deal with that than dealing with the confusion and frustration that comes from not being able to know what the fvck is going on all the time.
on the one side i've been finetuning my skill and personality more to the point where i generally get positive responses from most women. now what's been slipping me up lately is that i'm told i haven't been giving them a chance or that maybe i'm not interesting enough or maybe i don't have enough ballz or its this or that. yet in the ideal world they're supposed to chase and we're supposed to lead. when lately all i'm typically met with is girls who appeared interested and then if i don't talk to them, i never hear from them again.
i don't buy them dinner, i don't buy them drinks, i don't give them attention every second. i stay in my reality and focus on my dreams, goals and desires. when i'm with them, i make it known that i want to be more than friends. when i talk with them, i make it more about them than about me. i don't give answers to everything they ask and generally its because i can't think of it at the moment so i have to think of a clever response just so she doesn't keep asking.
now where i notice the most improvements in my life, isn't when i'm getting frustrated and caught up in what i don't have. its when i keep my eyes focused on what i DO have and what i WANT for myself. when i notice myself getting things done and reaching goals i've set, i notice an energy that springs forth that makes me want to challenge myself further and do more with myself. in turn what i get out of that is an admiration for life and i radiate more positive energy as a result. i've noticed that work better with women than your simple "get in shape" and "buy good stylish clothes" advice. even though its simply a byproduct and not the intended result.
i've noticed time and time again what the true answer to a man's calling is. when it comes to women, money, life and everything in between, there's no better answer than being a man and knowing yourself. its like all those other distractions about how this one girl didn't show up or OMG what if i mess up this intro or i wonder what she thinks about me. or in other parts of a man's life like his job, friends, social life, etc. obviously sitting there bytching about your situation ISN'T attractive to ANYONE and does nothing to solve whatever problem you feel you have.
so whatever life throws at you, its your job as a man to handle and see what you can do and what you control in the situation. you may not be able to control a woman flaking out on you, but you're in control of your life and getting on with it is taking control of what you have the power to. you're not able to control the jerk boss you end up with, but you're able to control how you let it affect you. you're not able to control the availability of your friends, but you're able to make and find new ones. these are examples of things YOU can change and things YOU can make happen for yourself.
being a man includes becoming better at doing those things and at becoming more in touch with yourself. figuring out what you will and won't put up with, knowing how to change your situations, knowing what you want and focusing on obtaining it. these all are examples of things directed from within you and are projected ******d by you.
being a man means a lot of things, but its what you do with the choices you have and the things you are in control of that really dictate the kind of man you are. do you feel like taking an atv and letting loose on a farm.. or would you think it might not be what the girl you're with would feel like doing so you try to figure out what she'd want to do? do you see a better life from getting a new job? developing a better body? getting a nicer car? being more honest? these all come from you. not from what people tell you or what the media tells you or what anything other than yourself tries to influence you with.
the choice is yours, what will you want to do?
i've been having a lot of difficulty lately in landing a chick. i've been noticing that although i've really been working on myself and improving my life. that its a lot easier to deal with that than dealing with the confusion and frustration that comes from not being able to know what the fvck is going on all the time.
on the one side i've been finetuning my skill and personality more to the point where i generally get positive responses from most women. now what's been slipping me up lately is that i'm told i haven't been giving them a chance or that maybe i'm not interesting enough or maybe i don't have enough ballz or its this or that. yet in the ideal world they're supposed to chase and we're supposed to lead. when lately all i'm typically met with is girls who appeared interested and then if i don't talk to them, i never hear from them again.
i don't buy them dinner, i don't buy them drinks, i don't give them attention every second. i stay in my reality and focus on my dreams, goals and desires. when i'm with them, i make it known that i want to be more than friends. when i talk with them, i make it more about them than about me. i don't give answers to everything they ask and generally its because i can't think of it at the moment so i have to think of a clever response just so she doesn't keep asking.
now where i notice the most improvements in my life, isn't when i'm getting frustrated and caught up in what i don't have. its when i keep my eyes focused on what i DO have and what i WANT for myself. when i notice myself getting things done and reaching goals i've set, i notice an energy that springs forth that makes me want to challenge myself further and do more with myself. in turn what i get out of that is an admiration for life and i radiate more positive energy as a result. i've noticed that work better with women than your simple "get in shape" and "buy good stylish clothes" advice. even though its simply a byproduct and not the intended result.
i've noticed time and time again what the true answer to a man's calling is. when it comes to women, money, life and everything in between, there's no better answer than being a man and knowing yourself. its like all those other distractions about how this one girl didn't show up or OMG what if i mess up this intro or i wonder what she thinks about me. or in other parts of a man's life like his job, friends, social life, etc. obviously sitting there bytching about your situation ISN'T attractive to ANYONE and does nothing to solve whatever problem you feel you have.
so whatever life throws at you, its your job as a man to handle and see what you can do and what you control in the situation. you may not be able to control a woman flaking out on you, but you're in control of your life and getting on with it is taking control of what you have the power to. you're not able to control the jerk boss you end up with, but you're able to control how you let it affect you. you're not able to control the availability of your friends, but you're able to make and find new ones. these are examples of things YOU can change and things YOU can make happen for yourself.
being a man includes becoming better at doing those things and at becoming more in touch with yourself. figuring out what you will and won't put up with, knowing how to change your situations, knowing what you want and focusing on obtaining it. these all are examples of things directed from within you and are projected ******d by you.
being a man means a lot of things, but its what you do with the choices you have and the things you are in control of that really dictate the kind of man you are. do you feel like taking an atv and letting loose on a farm.. or would you think it might not be what the girl you're with would feel like doing so you try to figure out what she'd want to do? do you see a better life from getting a new job? developing a better body? getting a nicer car? being more honest? these all come from you. not from what people tell you or what the media tells you or what anything other than yourself tries to influence you with.
the choice is yours, what will you want to do?