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Don Juan
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these are somethings i learnt about being the alpha male.
its easier to become the alpha male with new friends rather than moving up with old friends.
in highschool i used to be a follower, someone who laughed at the jokes and followed the pack, but then i joined the army reserves, and because of my excellent academic record (nerd) i was recommended for a officer position, which i am in now
officer training taught me a few things, a leader is someone who has A. a vision, and B. ability to attract people to follow this vision. take Martin Luther King for example, or every other great leader in history.
you can have a vision, or a passion, or a goal, whatever, what without the ability to attract others to follow your passions, you will just be a loner and recognized by society, I am not saying that social approve is important, but unless you are a philosopher or a novelist you need others to share your vision in order for you to suceed.
a leader is able to attract others: this is much more difficult, Alexander the Great would feed the injured soldiers his own food, Caesar rode ahead of his troops in battle, Napoleon gave decorations to the least significant of his soldiers--men and women are easily caught up by emotions and excitement caused by promises of a better life/glory. etc (look at communism and WWI) So the leader must find the common fear or desire of the people, tap into that, and lead accordingly.
but finding the common desire among the public is not the only key to the leader, people like to feel special, and you have to find what each person's strength and weakness is (or pretend to) and compliment/encourage them accordingly. this is where "revealing" things about themselves comes in. Napoleon, my hero, would get descriptions of certain battalions from the quartermaster, and before battles, he would praise certain soldiers he hasn't even seen and give them medals...morale is raised, and most times, these men would die for him in their excitement and need for glory.
leading is like fathering children, interestingly, Czar Alexander I's subjects called him the "little father"
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rising to the leader position
to be a leader, you have to be assertive, attitudes are infectious, so remain positive and dominate--DONT TRY TO CONTROL, this will make others rebellious, guaranteed.
as i mentioned before, make sure you are in good relations with every member of the group, trying to become a leader out of nowhere will get you rejected or worse. now, remember that you are not here to beg people for votes or anything, you are here like an older brother, to help them with their life.
when people are in groups, its harder (very hard) to rise to the alpha position, chances are: 1.either you have to challenge the present leader, or 2. people will ignore you and you stay in the same position you are in. (beta)
this is what happened to me recently, i went back to visit my highschool friends, and unfortunately, they tried to put me back to the beta male position, nothing changes in a social hierachy that easily, its like revolution.
what i recommend to do is to make friends elsewhere, usually when you meet new people they are rather shy, so if you act a little aggresive in the beginning, they will accept your role as a leader, make 5-10 friends who acknowledge your role as leader, and introduce them to one another. this way you have your gang and you are in a good position.
then you can bring your older friends to this group, one by one, not all together, charm them, let them appreciate your leadership and charisma, and expand your group,
i went to university, made friends at the dancing, fencing, and surfing club, met internatinonal students, made friends with real men in the army, became assertive (organize events and introduce your friends to each other...very important) and voila.
remember, they are your friends, not slaves, soldiers, or disciples...so treat them accordingly.
its easier to become the alpha male with new friends rather than moving up with old friends.
in highschool i used to be a follower, someone who laughed at the jokes and followed the pack, but then i joined the army reserves, and because of my excellent academic record (nerd) i was recommended for a officer position, which i am in now
officer training taught me a few things, a leader is someone who has A. a vision, and B. ability to attract people to follow this vision. take Martin Luther King for example, or every other great leader in history.
you can have a vision, or a passion, or a goal, whatever, what without the ability to attract others to follow your passions, you will just be a loner and recognized by society, I am not saying that social approve is important, but unless you are a philosopher or a novelist you need others to share your vision in order for you to suceed.
a leader is able to attract others: this is much more difficult, Alexander the Great would feed the injured soldiers his own food, Caesar rode ahead of his troops in battle, Napoleon gave decorations to the least significant of his soldiers--men and women are easily caught up by emotions and excitement caused by promises of a better life/glory. etc (look at communism and WWI) So the leader must find the common fear or desire of the people, tap into that, and lead accordingly.
but finding the common desire among the public is not the only key to the leader, people like to feel special, and you have to find what each person's strength and weakness is (or pretend to) and compliment/encourage them accordingly. this is where "revealing" things about themselves comes in. Napoleon, my hero, would get descriptions of certain battalions from the quartermaster, and before battles, he would praise certain soldiers he hasn't even seen and give them medals...morale is raised, and most times, these men would die for him in their excitement and need for glory.
leading is like fathering children, interestingly, Czar Alexander I's subjects called him the "little father"
--------------
rising to the leader position
to be a leader, you have to be assertive, attitudes are infectious, so remain positive and dominate--DONT TRY TO CONTROL, this will make others rebellious, guaranteed.
as i mentioned before, make sure you are in good relations with every member of the group, trying to become a leader out of nowhere will get you rejected or worse. now, remember that you are not here to beg people for votes or anything, you are here like an older brother, to help them with their life.
when people are in groups, its harder (very hard) to rise to the alpha position, chances are: 1.either you have to challenge the present leader, or 2. people will ignore you and you stay in the same position you are in. (beta)
this is what happened to me recently, i went back to visit my highschool friends, and unfortunately, they tried to put me back to the beta male position, nothing changes in a social hierachy that easily, its like revolution.
what i recommend to do is to make friends elsewhere, usually when you meet new people they are rather shy, so if you act a little aggresive in the beginning, they will accept your role as a leader, make 5-10 friends who acknowledge your role as leader, and introduce them to one another. this way you have your gang and you are in a good position.
then you can bring your older friends to this group, one by one, not all together, charm them, let them appreciate your leadership and charisma, and expand your group,
i went to university, made friends at the dancing, fencing, and surfing club, met internatinonal students, made friends with real men in the army, became assertive (organize events and introduce your friends to each other...very important) and voila.
remember, they are your friends, not slaves, soldiers, or disciples...so treat them accordingly.