Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
xdreamz said:ok everybody shut the **** up if you hate the mystery method or spend time bashing him on the internet then you are a flaming faggot and you deserve to eat **** and balls
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Xdreamz = DreamX? AKA guy who's been banned several times for spamming the forum.Phyzzle said:^^Looks like you're a flaming faggot, xdreamz.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Leaving aside how you're suppose to accomplish all this inner-game improvement. Nothing builds your confidence with women better than having success with women. It's just the tired old debate do you work on your inner game before working on outer game. It seems like the best answer is to do both concurrently.Interceptor said:I think methods that truly help Inner game issues, help develop and maximize your masculinity and sexuality, and help build TRUE, GENUINE Confiodence in YOURSELF, and methods that truly help you to live a life you would be proud of are THE methods everyone should look into.
Unfortunatley, there are not that many methods like those.
There is a need to look at the long term results and goals, and look at short term results and goals. Al lot of methods of PU are geared for short term, hence the limitations.
Develop yourSELF, be congruent, and do everything in your power to create and LIVE the life of your dreams. Deal with those inner demons, and develop the deep Inner Game as they call it. Have the areas you want to experience worked out BEFORE you meet the women. Have those issues handled, that way you can just go in and be truly, confident, relaxed, comfortable, and self assured.
To YOU.It seems like the best answer is to do both concurrently
I have to restrain myself from ripping you a new one for saying something that is completely asinine, but I'm going to ask you this question. Do you HONESTLY THINKthat Mystery showed everything in his arsenal in the show? Do you really and truly believe that? Do you think that with every fiber of your being that one of the world's greatest pickup artists only uses the "fight," and "opinion," and "best friends," opener? Come on man.domino said:The funny thing is that all the guys that will be taking the Mystery workshops will be wasting there money (5grand-10grand) because the MM will not work anymore due to all content being used by to many people, the only methods that will work will be natural game methods/direct methods. I gaurentee you that Mystery will regret going mainstream, he will look back one day and say "what have I done", showbiz ruins people who are not strong enough to deal with the lifestyle and Mystery will become a has been eventually.
Facts are, Mystery, Matador and JDog didn't get any of these guys a F Close, regardless if they spent 8 hours or 8 weeks together.Maximus Rex said:I have to restrain myself from ripping you a new one for saying something that is completely asinine, but I'm going to ask you this question. Do you HONESTLY THINKthat Mystery showed everything in his arsenal in the show? Do you really and truly believe that? Do you think that with every fiber of your being that one of the world's greatest pickup artists only uses the "fight," and "opinion," and "best friends," opener? Come on man.
What made it to air was only the tip of the iceberg. We never got to see Matador's or J-Dog's routines and I'm sure they have some.
What the public got to see was a little less than 8 hours of the TWO MONTHSthat Kosmo, Brady and Joe D. spent with Mystery, Matador and J-Dog, plus any other PUA that probably came through.
If your using the same rountine from the show, then you deserve to get shot down.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I don't agree with many points raised here mate.Derek Flint said:Facts are, Mystery, Matador and JDog didn't get any of these guys a F Close, regardless if they spent 8 hours or 8 weeks together.
A couple of kiss closes with a couple of average at best looking women.
Imagine dropping thousands of dollars on a boot camp with these guys and getting the same results.
No thanks.
This show was a disaster for Mystery and his Method. Anyone spinning it as different is either a shill for MM or a MM fanboy.
And Mystery recommends guys go out 4x per week, and do 12 approaches per night.
What a waste of time.
Anyone could use that time to better themselves and become a man of high value than practicing gimmicks to give the illusion of being high value.
Save your money and time and spend it on improving yourself instead of giving it to some guru who will teach you gimmicks and routines that every other guy will be using.
BE a Man of high value, not a clone of a man giving the illusion of being high value.
Who remembers the original mission statement of this forum?
It was to become a DJ, which has nothing to do with the gimmickry being taught by Mystery and others.
Actually, I hope guys buy his book, take his WS, and use his methods.domino said:But really man how many people actually read books? This show is 100 times more harmful than a book, and if there is a movie that comes out then forget it this community wont be the same, it will just open doors for people to make new ways to game or instead of "negs" we will have to use compliments "afc" stuff girls will like guys who buy them flowers and buy them drinks since every guy will deny girls a drink and the only way to stand out from this is to do "afc" stuff...... oh man what if that happened we end up having to use the stuff that we were told to not do!!!!! danm Mystery he will receive the title as "the most HATED PUA in the world".
You are rather close minded mate, sorry, but it's true.Derek Flint said:Actually, I hope guys buy his book, take his WS, and use his methods.
Much less competition for us "Naturals" anyways.
Nothing funnier than walking into a club and seeing these peacocked idiots telling girls that "they only have a minute" but that they "need a female opinion" and hiding their interest, only to have to eventually show interest and then deal with all the "ASD" and "LMR" that they created by hiding their intent in the first place.
Women know why we approach them.
It's not because we were wondering if they saw those 2 chicks outside fighting over George. Or was it Jorge?
Or any of those other lame ass opinion openers.
We approach women because we want to sex them. They know it, you know it, I know it, everyone knows it.
But some people think that they are "flying under the radar" by asking innocent questions which actually lowers your value, because you (not anyone specific in this thread, just a figure of speech) use indirect openers as a buffer between yourself and rejection and you don't have the balls to go for what you want in a straightforward, unapologetic way.
Women see this as being weak and scared. Instant ticket to AFC, LJBF land.
And then guys wonder why they run into "***** Shields" and "ASD" and "LMR" and "LJBF" and why they have to use gimmicks and tricks and routines and "DHV" and "Negs"
All total overkill and completely unnecessary.
Sheesh - no wonder guys have to practice 4 nights a week for months just to improve.
Practice to do something that is the most natural thing in the world, a Man and a Woman getting together.
These gurus are making a ton of money and laughing about it all the way to the bank, by making something so straightforward so difficult and complicated.
We haven't made it complicated for no reason. Some men were getting somewhere with women, some weren't. People like Style, Mystery etc. developed a complicated skill set to understand women and how to get them into bed and it works if one is prepared to master it to a tee, which requires a lot of practice.DonJoseCantosie said:I completely agree whole heartedly 100%. The game was NEVER this complicated at all....never. We made it complicated for ourselves. For god sakes, shouldn't it be an art form instead of a science? It seems like the community has made it into a science, purely complicated.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.