The ability to enjoy yourself is essential

[LuisGarcia10]

This may sound to some like I'm stating the obvious, but given some of the posts I read, I think it's a point which needs making.
Meeting girls should be a fun, exciting past-time, you're usually out with friends having a good time anyway, and on top of that you're meeting some new girls and having fun with them. That should be fun, irregardless of whether or not you get a number, or a kiss, or take her home, it should still be fun. Not only that but every single girl you approach and speak to brings you one step closer to becoming absolutely comfortable with meeting, and hooking up with girls.
Now I am absolutely not suggesting that you meet girls and don't make it obvious that you're sexually interested in them- that is a must unless you want to be bracketed with a bunch of pathetic idiots that have no balls to make a move. But I am saying that if you're not successful, which you often won't be, then there is nothing to be ashamed of, and it definately isn't an excuse to act like a petulant child and delete her facebook or whatever. At the end of the day women want a man, not a boy who throws a tantrum when he gets his own way.
I can only speak from my own experience, but to illustrate what I'm trying to say; there was a girl I was interested in, she'd been commenting on my fb status' all the time etc, we'd met and had a few drinks and stuff in the past but nothing had happened, I got the impression she was interested. I invited her round to mine, told her I'd show her how to make ravioli (I'm a chef,) but in my mind this was by no means a date with a desired outcome, it was chilling with a girl that I enjoy the company of, and if something happened then brilliant, but if not then it would have been a good night anyway. I ended up in bed with her that night but that's not the point, had she gone home with nothing happening it still would have been a good night, and I'm convinced that the fact that I was relaxed, happy and enjoying myself irrespective of what may or may not happen between us actually attracted her to me more. Unfortunately I ended up totally messing up that relationship down to getting drunk and acting like an idiot but that's a different story.
The point I am trying to make is that time, and time again I read posts from guys that honestly sound like they're clinically depressed. This should be FUN! When you ask a girl out and she gives you some b*tchy response, don't get annoyed, don'ty get offended, just LAUGH. If a girl suddenly stops responsding to your messages then laugh. If a girl who you've slept with a couple of times dumps you then at least you got to sleep with her, because I guarentee they'll have been a load of guys that would love to have done that, but they couldn't, you did, and so what if you made some mistakes and eventually messed it up? It's a learning curve, and when I started on this site I was AWFUL with women, I would have killed for the chance to get dumped by a HB8 after having sex with her numerous times!
This is called a GAME for a reason, don't take it too seriously, don't let it consume you, just walk around with the biggest cheesy grin on your face at all times, and ENJOY YOURSELF. I can almost guarentee that you'll get better results that way.

Meeting beautiful women is one of life's up most pleasures, it's up there with good food and beer If you can't enjoy this then what can you enjoy?!

Just remember, it's a game, enjoy playing it, but don't get mad when you lose, just learn why you lost and don't repeat the mistakes

 

[moneyisking]

truth in this post... only problem is, i think rejection comes harder on men b/c we have such a competitive nature, and we tend to fall into the trap of agony when the results are not what we expected; we usually think it's our in capabilities and there goes the "fun" down the drain. i am actually liking the process of escalating into sex more than actually the sex itself, for all the witty, funny, sexual, or sometimes even crazy things that I say to em girls subconsciously tells me that I am in control and these bytches dig me haha.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

truth in this post... only problem is, i think rejection comes harder on men b/c we have such a competitive nature, and we tend to fall into the trap of agony when the results are not what we expected; we usually think it's our in capabilities and there goes the "fun" down the drain. i am actually liking the process of escalating into sex more than actually the sex itself, for all the witty, funny, sexual, or sometimes even crazy things that I say to em girls subconsciously tells me that I am in control and these bytches dig me haha.

Well the rejection becomes a lot easier to deal with when you hook up with a few higher quality girls. Most girls think the same way, if you've managed to bang a HB8 or above then there's no reason why you can't bang another, so after that it becomes easy to realise you're capable. Rejection becomes less of an issue as you realise it's unlikely to be that you're in adequate, just that maybe she was in a bad mood or whatever. Basically you realise it isn't your fault.

I've been rejected countless times, dumped a couple of times, the rejection doesn't bother me, being dumped does because I become emotionally attached the the person in question and it's hard to let go, but that's just a risk you take.

I am by no means where I want to be in this game, not by a long way, but the one thing I have learnt over the last 12 months or so is just to enjoy it, and let what happens, happen. I'm going out tonight, if I come home with no numbers, no kisses, it will still be a good night because I'll have been out with friends and I'll have met girls, that isn't a bad worst case scenario really is it?

 

[ZenoB]

Letting go (of a girl, a situation that's not in your control, whatever) is one of the toughest lessons I've had to learn. When people adviced me in the past to let it go, I didn't really understand what it meant. I had to learn the hard way.

This post is exactly the mentality that you have to have in order to be able to let go and enjoy your life as much as you should enjoy it.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

The thing people need to understand is that there is an indefinite amount of pretty girls in this world. Just because you can't get one doesn't mean you can't get the other one. It'll take time to get this through your head but it is the absolute truth. Once you figure this out indifference will come naturally and women love indifference.

 

[Voice]

This is an EXCELLENT post. Fun is something that is completely essential to the game. If you are not enjoying yourself then you are doing it wrong. Even Pook said that there are 3 Keys to DJ:

Embrace your sexuality
"I am the prize"
"fun should be the focus.

Consider these the holy trinity of Don Juan.

 

[bigneil]

Most girls think the same way, if you've managed to bang a HB8 or above then there's no reason why you can't bang another

Great point Luis. For every female personality type, there are a million girls with her physical type (i.e., who will be just as attracted to you as a particular girl once was).

So even after you mess it up with one girl by saying/doing the wrong thing (for example your shoes didn't have square toes, or your texting skills were too abrasive), remember that only her perception was messed up, not the attraction she felt when she met you. The next girl will feel the same initial attraction. So just meet another girl of her type and you get a clean slate, and with lessons learned.