The 6 irrefutable laws of Status

[tksniper]

Whilst I agree it can be a key component in female attraction

The notion of status is deeply flawed .....because it's so theatrical & performative for both the people trying to achieve it and the people that are convinced to give it to them

The benefits of status are usually restricted to a very small pool of environments and situations .... yes dating / attraction can be two of them but there are in a lot of cases far more negatives than positives its very very easy to slap a bullseye on yourself with status.

Any celebrity will tell you that being constantly recognised is mostly a pain in the arse during day to day life

There are groups in my hometown who would class themselves as highly popular within that local area ....theres constant drama between these groups as they fight with each other to scramble up the social ladder yet you take them out of that local environment and they instantly become nobodies.

Status is a strange human psychological tenant

it takes someone to want it and someone to give it ...

Status with women is very simple. It’s the reality in your head and how much value you think you can offer as opposed to taking from people/women.


If you feel like a million bucks and also feel like you have a lot to offer/give,
, then you are high status to people.

The key is are you offering value or just aura farming?

A lot of attractive people aura farm. They are all about themselves. Status is only activated when you are actually willing to validate other people and offer them value.

Grok this simple principle of interdependence and you grok actual status.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Sniper,
Status like Charisma is only capable of rationalisation using concepts like Aura farming and Grokking,whose meanings are also shrouded in mist.

 

[jhonny9546]

While I agree it can be a key component in female attraction,

Especially for LTRs, status matters, like wealth. Especially if your area of interest is, and remains, your career, the circle of people you hang out with, the city you live in.

After all, not all of us can impact millions of people, but precisely, we have high status in one tribe, but we are nobody in another.

But this still makes it worth working on status, after having worked on the primary things that make us men.
It would come automatically.

 

[jhonny9546]

The key is are you offering value or just aura farming?

A lot of attractive people aura farm. They are all about themselves. Status is only activated when you are actually willing to validate other people and offer them value.

Great point, we'd love to hear examples and explain how you do it

 

[tksniper]

Great point, we'd love to hear examples and explain how you do it

The highest status person in the room isn’t the one who is doing the most talking (this is aura farming). People might supplicate to him because they want some of his status to rub off on them. But at the end of the day, nobody genuinely likes this guy. And as soon as he leaves the tribe, nobody will respond to his texts or invite him out.

The highest status person in the room is actually the one everyone is talking TO. We’ve all seen this guy. There is something genuine, authentic, and cool about him. You care about his validation. You would invite him out just to be around his aura. This guy has a way of making people feel “seen” when he interacts with them.

How do you get everyone talking to you? By being genuinely interested in other people instead of just being interested in yourself and wanting the world to know who you are.

A high status person has no need for anyone to know his entire life story. In fact, he is sick of his own story. A high status person has genuine appreciation for other people’s unique qualities.

I appreciate independence. When I see someone at a party or get together looking fully content with their own company, I would actually give them a compliment. I would say something like “You look like someone who is content with just chillin by yourself with no need for attention or validation. What’s your secret?” The person would immediately light up and open up to me because they feel safe to be themselves around me. They can sense genuine authenticity and genuine appreciation from me FOR them.

If I see someone who is completely uninhibited and having the time of their lives, I would say something like “You look like you are completely in the moment without a care in the word. What’s your secret?” And they would just immediately open up to me.

At the end of the day, I’ll have everyone opening up to me, wanting to exchange numbers and network, wanting to exchange social media contacts, wanting to invite me to the after party, etc. The craziest invite I ever had was a woman I met who wanted me to be her date night on her family’s thanksgiving party. She met me for 30 minutes. I complimented her on how chill her vibe was. And she immediately connected with me.

So that’s the key. Look for unique qualities in others that you appreciate and show them appreciation for it. They will love you.

People like those that like them. Grok this and you grok true charisma and social status.

 

[jhonny9546]

@tksniper

Friend, true words.

Luckily, I'm truly like this in my life; I'm genuinely curious about others.

Yet I'm sure I'm not very good at "selling" the image that I'm truly interested in them, even though I actually am.

Many open up to me, but they don't seek me out like you say. There's definitely something in me that pushes them away, something I need to work on.

You care about his validation

In my experience, he could also simply be a manipulator or narcissist, and people will seek his validation, so there's always a distinction to be made between being authentic and having validation because people are insecure.
I've also learned something from narcissists and how they care about others by cold-reading, labeling, etc. They do it in a disloyal and inauthentic way, but you can learn from them to understand what they're doing.

You know that cool guy in the group who fits your description?
Sometimes he's just a big kid who likes to play pranks, calls others names, shows them little disrespect, or tests their limits. Lots of humor, but also a lot of projection.
I have seen many of these men, taking a "genuine" interest in people, having them tell them their interests, listening to them, and only a few minutes after these people leave the room, they are there commenting, judging, making fun of, but above all, doing cold readings, which they use both to make it clear that they are the "gold standard" and therefore they are validating, and secondly to discredit and elevate their position.

I'm interested to know for your sake if this came naturally to you, or if you learned it later.

And sometimes, "the one who's popular" in the room could be for many reasons, and sometimes not for the reason we've discussed here. But I think what we've discussed here is the authentic one.

P.S., people often tell me that when I enter the room I'm like sunshine, or just that I'm a good-looking man.
I always get compliments, especially from older women, who want to talk to me for hours.
Young women are always "scared."

 

[tksniper]

I’ll be completely honest. The “6 irrefutable laws of status” is my absolute best post I can ever produce in my career at sosuave. And I might have tried to revive it with frivolous posts. But yeah, this is it. This is the pinnacle of my entire career at sosuave. At least I am able to admit to it.

And it actually took me almost 20 years of experience to even produce it.

Good luck my brothers.

 

[tksniper]

@tksniper

Friend, true words.

Luckily, I'm truly like this in my life; I'm genuinely curious about others.

Yet I'm sure I'm not very good at "selling" the image that I'm truly interested in them, even though I actually am.

Many open up to me, but they don't seek me out like you say. There's definitely something in me that pushes them away, something I need to work on.


In my experience, he could also simply be a manipulator or narcissist, and people will seek his validation, so there's always a distinction to be made between being authentic and having validation because people are insecure.
I've also learned something from narcissists and how they care about others by cold-reading, labeling, etc. They do it in a disloyal and inauthentic way, but you can learn from them to understand what they're doing.

You know that cool guy in the group who fits your description?
Sometimes he's just a big kid who likes to play pranks, calls others names, shows them little disrespect, or tests their limits. Lots of humor, but also a lot of projection.
I have seen many of these men, taking a "genuine" interest in people, having them tell them their interests, listening to them, and only a few minutes after these people leave the room, they are there commenting, judging, making fun of, but above all, doing cold readings, which they use both to make it clear that they are the "gold standard" and therefore they are validating, and secondly to discredit and elevate their position.

I'm interested to know for your sake if this came naturally to you, or if you learned it later.

And sometimes, "the one who's popular" in the room could be for many reasons, and sometimes not for the reason we've discussed here. But I think what we've discussed here is the authentic one.

P.S., people often tell me that when I enter the room I'm like sunshine, or just that I'm a good-looking man.
I always get compliments, especially from older women, who want to talk to me for hours.
Young women are always "scared."

This is directed to you. I only ever became interested in other people when I was supper confident in myself, so my validation looks completely natural.

For most of my life I was not interested in other people. It took a tremendous amount of self love for me to even love others.

Which means I took no short cuts. I genuinely had to love myself in every way before I could appreciate others in a genuine and authentic level.

Loving myself was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my entire life.

In fact, I would even say loving yourself in all ways will be the hardest thing you will ever do in YOUR life.

 

[jhonny9546]

Loving myself was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my entire life.

In fact, I would even say loving yourself in all ways will be the hardest thing you will ever do in YOUR life.

Bold words, curious about what you've done to do it, and the place you where before

 

[tksniper]

Bold words, curious about what you've done to do it, and the place you where before

I would say spirituality and realizing I am not my ego, but an eternal being manifesting himself as a temporary ego. Look up Thoth. He was an Egyptian God of ancient knowledge. At the risk of sounding woo woo, Thoth’s teachings has helped me manifest many things in life, including women and financial stability. And sometimes when I write, I feel like I have so much clarity, as if it’s coming from somewhere else but my own limited ego. Look him up on YouTube and have an open mind. And of course. Test out his philosophies for yourself before you judge. See if it actually works.

 

[jhonny9546]

I would say spirituality and realizing I am not my ego, but an eternal being manifesting himself as a temporary ego. Look up Thoth. He was an Egyptian God of ancient knowledge. At the risk of sounding woo woo, Thoth’s teachings has helped me manifest many things in life, including women and financial stability. And sometimes when I write, I feel like I have so much clarity, as if it’s coming from somewhere else but my own limited ego. Look him up on YouTube and have an open mind. And of course. Test out his philosophies for yourself before you judge. See if it actually works.

How do you simultaneously focus on spirituality and increasing your SMV?
We can't deny the power of both.