"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The 2nd date?

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Alright guys this is a long one so just bear with me.
I met a girl on POF, we went out to a bar and had a couple drinks the other night to meet each other. It went smooth and she said she definitely wants to meet up again. She asked what we could do that's fun and I suggested going to the gun range, she agreed and is very excited. I know shes into me for sure but heres my problems.

1. I'm leaving town for work tomorrow and won't be back for about a month. I figure I'll text or call her a few times and probably email her some pictures (I'll be in the Rockies). Any thoughts on what to talk about?

2. I didn't quite escalate sexually when we met but she knows I'm interested. I can't remember the last time I actively tried to get a girl the old fashioned way, I usually just pick up girls at bars and clubs and hook up and hang out. This girl is LTR material so I wanna see where it goes. She seems kinda prude so I'm open to suggestions on how to handle that situation also.

Thanks in advance
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Towerdog said:
1. I'm leaving town for work tomorrow and won't be back for about a month. I figure I'll text or call her a few times and probably email her some pictures (I'll be in the Rockies). Any thoughts on what to talk about?
Keep it to 1 message a week tops. You 'll be too busy out and banging other chicks right?

Towerdog said:
2. I didn't quite escalate sexually when we met but she knows I'm interested. I can't remember the last time I actively tried to get a girl the old fashioned way, I usually just pick up girls at bars and clubs and hook up and hang out. This girl is LTR material so I wanna see where it goes. She seems kinda prude so I'm open to suggestions on how to handle that situation also.
How does she know you're interested if you didn't escalate?

You are raving about her being LTR material and you don't even know her. Get your head on straight.

If she seems like a prude, then for go for it anyway.

She may put up some resistance. If so, go for a 3rd date and if she doesn't bang you then, it's 2 strikes and you lose her.

Simple.
 

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Good advice. However I wasn't raving about her being ltr material if you read my post. Also I do know this woman well because we've been talking on the phone for a while and she just seems like a good person, unlike most of the skanks I've been with before
 

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Towerdog said:
Good advice. However I wasn't raving about her being ltr material if you read my post. Also I do know this woman well because we've been talking on the phone for a while and she just seems like a good person, unlike most of the skanks I've been with before
Until you've dated a girl, you don't know the girl.

Hell, I can even say it about myself. Iceberg as an acquaintance and Iceberg as a boyfriend are two different people.

Moral of the story - She's LTR material when she proves herself to be. I've had "skanks" turn out to be nice girls. And "nice girls" turn out to be skanks.

I'm not trying to rain on your parade. But you can't put this girl on a pedestal. Until she's having great sex with you, and then waking up and cooking you breakfast, she's not "LTR material". Especially considering you haven't gone on date #2 yet.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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