The #1 mistake men make

[Alpheta]

Yes, the #1 mistake with women isn't anything you do with a woman. It traces all the way back to the basic idea that you need any woman. Every problem you read about here, stems from that.

Reading the OP just makes me feel nauseous. All this talk about winning and losing the girl. If you do this, she'll come back blah blah blah. Please... stop. Ugh.

Of course you need a woman. That's basic human nature. Our reason on this earth biologically is to spread genes so a woman is a necessity.

It's how you treat that necessity that matters. most rich celebs don't "NEED" any specific women as they have millions of ***** jumping at them right? Not the case. These same successful men fall in to the same afc pattern most men do. Look at drake the rapper. Loves nicki minaj but couldn't get her. Why ? He doesn't "need" women he's so successful right? But no she ends up with a half broke rapper. Point is, you must know your game. Regardless of how much self improvement you have done there will be one girl out there that will pull the strings of your heart. If you are on your game you'll score her. If not then you'll be like the rest of the afcs in the world.

 

[raider87]

Loves nicki minaj but couldn't get her.

Pretty sure he blew it with Rihanna too.

 

[Yewki]

Of course you need a woman.

Says the man who needs a woman. Listen Boyz II Men, not everyone "needs" to spread their seed and for those that do a woman is only needed temporarily.

Look at drake the rapper...

Well sh*t, if it applies to Drake it must be true. Good point, sir. Well played.

 

[kenpiffyjr]

I actually disagree with this post. Its halfway there but contains some false assumptions. Ultimately, what you are doing is accepting your role as a woman's backup.

Agreed. But the nature of women is the nature of hypergamy.

I agree with this post solely for the understanding of that and to be aware that as men, we have to remain outcome independent.

At ANY TIME a female can change her tune. We can not control this. The only thing we can control is our reactions. This thread is about the proper reaction. Knowing this, even a female who's all about you at a particular time can start becoming distant. There is no such thing as "the one" and there isn't a magic tool that Is sure fire 100% going to keep a woman's interest high. That's the one thing people misconstrue with Anti-Dump's theory: just because she's so into now doesn't mean that that's permanent.

Basically a man who is a priority 1 has to understand that he's always going to be a Back Up to her real number one priority...herself and her feelings. The thing is, men should start thinking like that as well...that's all.

 

[kenpiffyjr]

Which leads me to the theory of the NEXT.

I agree with everything about nexting when it comes with oneitis and disrespect.

Being treated as a number #2 priority is not disrespect IMHO if you are spinning plates. It's disrespect in your head when you are treating the girl like she's still a #1 priority and wanting a long term relationship with her. That's totally the guys fault. To take offense of being a girls number two priority is ALL ego driven and subconsciously you still believe in "the one".

The minute you feel like you are a "back up"...match her interest and permanently plate her. I personally don't get butt hurt or rationalize her distance...I just plate her to the point where she can no longer ever be my number #1 plate and invest more time in other broads.

 

[EyeBRollin]

This is a great post, something that was on my mind recently. Now so you are already sleeping with the girl, and she starts to become distant, and you reach out to invite her out and its been 3 days with no response. Would you apply this method of just letting it go? Or would you reach out again a week later? When do you decide to reach out again to see if you can smash again VS knowing to let it go?

A woman in good standing I call once per week to set the next date. I set it sooner if she reaches out. If she won't make a definite date within two tries, that's your que to stop trying. If she is interested, she will come around to you. There's nothing you can do but try to make the dates. Anything beyond that will eventually just get you rejected for good.