"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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the 1 minute drill

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I've been working my job for about three months now, and during that time I've seen a lot of girls from my old school who I havn't seen in about three years (I go to private school now but work in town). I can usually grab a minute or two to talk to them, but its hard to create instant attraction from someone whos basically a stranger who I know by name. I would like to get a number from one or two of them, but it always seems like it would be a little strange to just ask for it out of the blue. How can I move from the usuall what have you been up to conversation to one that ends in me getting her number?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Keep talking to them on a regular basis, build up some thicker rapport, go for a number when you feel confident enough....or when it just feels right. Mind you that "just right" feeling may not come, so you better get crackin.....

Maybe during your how have you been convo, you depart but before you do just simply say something like this...

"Nice talkin to you again, can I get your number maybe we can hangout sometime?"

Quick and easy I think....and no harm done. If she declines she is probably not interested, and you saved yourself a bit of time in the process
 

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Catch up on things, tell them it was nice talking to them and that you two should hang out again...then ask for the number.
 

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Easy

Just in the middle of the conversation, like you just thought of it "Hey, you know I really wanna catch up and find out what happened to all my old friends, but I've been really busy lately." Then give them a piece of paper and tell them to write down their email, sn, and phone. Done. Your not asking them on a date, just trying to catch up, easy.
 

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Thanks for the input guys. I plan to try a few of those ideas out, I'll let you know how it goes when i get my next opportunity.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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