"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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That's something my dad would say...

DangNammit

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When a gal says this with a laugh and smile (in a good way), is this a good thing? Curious...@she's made a few comments related to her dad and how we'd hit it off, etc. I have never met him... thoughts?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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conventional wisdom says yes. Assuming she has a good relationship with her father....blah blah blah....women date men like their fathers...blah blah blah...Electra Complex...blah blah blah..psychology....blah blah.
 

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DangNammit said:
When a gal says this with a laugh and smile (in a good way), is this a good thing? Curious...@she's made a few comments related to her dad and how we'd hit it off, etc. I have never met him... thoughts?
Yeah same thing happened to my bud and a younger broad who made those kind of comments, in short he banged her no time (she's a cutie too) him well let's just say he's a little out of shape and not the best looking lol.
 

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DangNammit said:
When a gal says this with a laugh and smile (in a good way), is this a good thing? Curious...@she's made a few comments related to her dad and how we'd hit it off, etc. I have never met him... thoughts?
Yes, that is a good thing.

Much better than, " ...That is just like something my parole officer would say."
 

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Next time a girl says that, put on a sly grin and say "well then honey, call me daddy!"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Warrior74 said:
conventional wisdom says yes. Assuming she has a good relationship with her father....blah blah blah....women date men like their fathers...blah blah blah...Electra Complex...blah blah blah..psychology....blah blah.
Well a psychologist wrote a book about Bill Clinton basically fvcking Monica Lewinsky because she was so much like his mother. Which raises the question, is there a male equivalent of this? Where a guy would date women who seem like their female influences while growing up. This is assuming that the electra complex thing is even real in the first place. We need a psychologist in here lol
 

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You're in the father zone.
 
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