That what you think about yourself, is exactly what you are

[terminator911]

Why so many postst about guys who think of themselves as being losers?

Listen up, if you think that you are a loser, what exactly do you expect a girl to sense from you? Women like confident men, not some wimp who doesn't even love himself. If you think like a loser, that's exactly what you'll portray to everyone around you, and believe me; no one wants to be around a loser.

If not even you believe in yourself, how do you expect others to believe in you. Always consider yourself as being the best motherf***er there is at everything that you do.

Who cares if you are ugly; no one is perfect. Just dress nicely, clean yourself, exercise... do whatever you have to do to compensate for it, if you feel like it. If not, just be yourself, go out and talk to as many women as you can, ask for their phone #'s; eventually you'll get what you want after you do some hard work.


Nothing comes easy... "Set your mind to do the best, and your body will do the rest".

Good luck,
terminator


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"Women. They've got half the money in the world and all the pu$$y."

[This message has been edited by terminator911 (edited 11-07-2000).]

 

[Gator Ash]

Very good post and right on the money!

The only person in charge of your Identity and the ways that you identify yourself is you, no one else. Even if other people attempt to frame your Identity according to their ideas about you, it is still only you have the final word on your self-image.

Think of it this way. Your Identity/Self-Identifications is simply a mental "construct" and isn't a "real" thing. It may feel real enough, but can you go to Wal-Mart and buy a new identity or go see a medical specialist for an Identiy transplant? Obviously not. So be sure to identify yourself in ways that serve you well and enhance your life.

When updating/editing your Identity it may help to adopt new identifications that are process oriented. For example the Self-Identification of "I am horrible with women" could be updated to "I am becoming better with women because I'm improving my hygiene, getting great information from internet, improving my self-image, etc." Another example would be taking the Self-Identification of "I'm a Loser" and change that to "I am capable of taking control of my life" or "I am slowly improving in all the major areas of my life and will be a winner in the near future."

The reason I would advise against updating your Identity/Self-Identification with the exact opposite of the old, unresourceful way of identifying yourself is that there may be a higher frame of reference (concept, belief, thought, etc.) that says "bull****!" when you suddenly identify yourself as a Winner, Great with Women, etc.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to "loosen up" those old unresourceful ways of identifying yourself. By the way, you use the sentence stem "I am..." to elicit your Identity/Self-Identifications. Ask yourself these questions about the negative Self-Identification:
"Does this way of identifying myself really serve me well, enhance my life, and make me a more resourceful person?"
"Do I really like this?"
"What will happen if I continue identifying myself in this way for the rest of my life? What won't happen? Do I like that?"
"Who chose this way of identifying myself? Was it me or someone else (parents, teachers, society)? Do I really want to run around with someone else's perception of me in my head?"

Here are some questions to help solidify a new way of identiying yourself:
"Do I like this way of identifying myself?"
"Will this way of identifying myself help me to be more resourceful, empowered, joyful, etc?"
"Will this way of identifying myself bring me closer to my goals? How will it do that? Would I like that?
"How much do I like the fact that I am consciously and deliberately taking control of my Identity, Self-Image and the ways that I identify myself? Could this lead to me taking control of my thinking and possibly eliminating any negative, unresourceful thought, attitude or belief from my mental-emotional space? Could this lead to me taking absolute control of my life? Would I like that?"

Repeat this process several times a day over the next few days and see what happens. Come up with additional questions to ask yourself if you like. Even if you think this total bull****, at least you will be doing something other than feeling sorry for yourself. Thanks for reading and God Bless.

 

[ChrisFl]

I think people tend to get confidence in areas where they've been successful, so in this one area of life where they need the confidence first, they have trouble.

 

[DocFrankeinstein]

You totally screwed up the titile:

Its NOT what you think ABOUT YOURSELF, is exactly what you are.

Its WHAT YOU THINK, IS WHAT YOU ARE.

If you are thinking about math all the time - then you are mathematician. If you are thinking how to blow up buildings and get away with it - you are a criminal. If you think of new ways to impress chicks and get their attention to you you are a romantic or don juan. If you think that you are not sure that this girl will like you - then you are an AFC.

But the post is good

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If you take love as a crazy gamble
Throw your dice, take your chance
You will see it from a different angle
And you two can join the dance

 

[Djeed]

I think people tend to get confidence in areas where they've been successful, so in this one area of life where they need the confidence first, they have trouble.

I also agree on that. Lionel Messi is not the best soccer player because he thinks he is, but rather because he's proven himself to be so.

 

[BowTie]

You need self respect and confidence. Walk with pride, don't be afraid to speak your mind. I'm not advocating being an ass or being some smug person, but have the balls to stand up for yourself.

Women love confidence, if you lack it then you have to fake it. Smile! Also reprogram your thoughts ex.
BAD - "I'm a loser, I don't get women etc etc."
GOOD - "I'm such a boss, women would be lucky to be with me. I won't settle for something random, I want the best because I AM the best!"

 

[Flicks]

Everyone should focus on their inner Work instead of applying some corny approaches or routines, believing they will be the "Magic Key to success with women". It's not going to work out this way.

Beliefsystem is where everything stems from. Your Behavior, Bodylanguage, "outer-Game", how you talk and behave around women/friend/business partner. It's truly the key to all success,happyness and confidence.

Affirmations and Experience work great together in changing a negative Mindset into a positive, rock-solid Belief System.

 

[goundra]

if WISHING made things so, I'd be the richest man in the world. It takes THOUGHT, people, and EFFORT, and often, quite a bit of LUCK. It's just luck that you aint hit by a drunken driver, catch some disease, etc.