"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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that was weird. somebody explain this to me.

alnite

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We were on her bed watching TV and a friend of us was watching it too. After our friend left her room, I asked her that we should go out. At that time, there was quite a lot of chemistry between us. I was a little nervous. But she rejected because she thought I was too good for her, and she should wait until she feels better about herself. I left her room. In my room, I was thinking about it. I took that as a rejection, but I felt better about myself after that (you learn more from rejection).

So, 10 minutes later, she called me to talk about it more. I came back to her room. She shared a lot about her feelings to me. Then we start hugging and kissing. She attacked me, she kissed me wild. But at this point, I had no arousal at all. I could tell she was very emotional, but I was there kissing her and strangely was very calm...

First time I did it I was nervous, but just 10 minutes after that, I was calm as hell. Can somebody explain what had just happened to me?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dapper Swindler

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Apparently she has some kind of emotional problems about something. I don't know her so I can't tell you what is up. But you might want to reconsider getting involved with someone like that. It's up to you.
 

DeathDealer

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He's asking what just happened to him, not about the girl (to Dapper Swindler)

What just happened? She broke the ice with you that is what happens (it's supposed to be the other way around guys doing it.) - That's why nice guys should get it over and find out fast.. once you do .. all the anxiety and stuff lowers.
 

izza

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When things feel easy around a chick that is a great sign - you should feel comfortable around yo' woman.

Your woman, however, shouldn't be out of her mind, as your post makes her appear. Double check on that, if she's acting like a loon, drop her.

Izza
 

alnite

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Yeah. It's just weird. When you want her, you have all the emotion, but once you get it, everything is gone. Now I am wondering whether I have done the right thing. I don't want her to get emotionally attached to me, and there is no way I could drop her just like that. We live in the same building, and I could say we see each other everyday. So, it's pretty tough.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She doesn't seem all that bad; she might even be up for kinky sex :D . Next time have sex with her covered in chocolate syrup and bust out some wine if you wanna be fancy ;)




EVERYONE! I'VE REACHED 69! WHAT A SPECIAL OCCASION! :D
 
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