"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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that was weird. somebody explain this to me.

alnite

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We were on her bed watching TV and a friend of us was watching it too. After our friend left her room, I asked her that we should go out. At that time, there was quite a lot of chemistry between us. I was a little nervous. But she rejected because she thought I was too good for her, and she should wait until she feels better about herself. I left her room. In my room, I was thinking about it. I took that as a rejection, but I felt better about myself after that (you learn more from rejection).

So, 10 minutes later, she called me to talk about it more. I came back to her room. She shared a lot about her feelings to me. Then we start hugging and kissing. She attacked me, she kissed me wild. But at this point, I had no arousal at all. I could tell she was very emotional, but I was there kissing her and strangely was very calm...

First time I did it I was nervous, but just 10 minutes after that, I was calm as hell. Can somebody explain what had just happened to me?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dapper Swindler

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Apparently she has some kind of emotional problems about something. I don't know her so I can't tell you what is up. But you might want to reconsider getting involved with someone like that. It's up to you.
 

DeathDealer

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He's asking what just happened to him, not about the girl (to Dapper Swindler)

What just happened? She broke the ice with you that is what happens (it's supposed to be the other way around guys doing it.) - That's why nice guys should get it over and find out fast.. once you do .. all the anxiety and stuff lowers.
 

izza

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When things feel easy around a chick that is a great sign - you should feel comfortable around yo' woman.

Your woman, however, shouldn't be out of her mind, as your post makes her appear. Double check on that, if she's acting like a loon, drop her.

Izza
 

alnite

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Yeah. It's just weird. When you want her, you have all the emotion, but once you get it, everything is gone. Now I am wondering whether I have done the right thing. I don't want her to get emotionally attached to me, and there is no way I could drop her just like that. We live in the same building, and I could say we see each other everyday. So, it's pretty tough.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Guerrero

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She doesn't seem all that bad; she might even be up for kinky sex :D . Next time have sex with her covered in chocolate syrup and bust out some wine if you wanna be fancy ;)




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