That knawing feeling...

[Zunder]

You know, the one us fomer AFC's get.....
You get a date with a hot chick.
She says your an amazing guy and sexy and all that.

It's true what she says - but there is still that teeny weeny tiny little feeling
that makes a fleeting appearance in your subconscious that "jesus this girl is too good for me".

I have basically good control over that feeling - I have to if I am going to continue to grow as a man - but it does p!ss me off that it makes an appearance now and then, no matter how fleeting.

Any you guys get this still?

 

[backbreaker]

nope.

 

[window]

it is all in your mind...you can make her as big and unatainable in there as you like. The more importance you place on her in your mind the harder it will be for you. So it has nothing to do with her but what is in your head. Learn to control your mind...

 

[Boilermaker]

I know your personality just a bit,
and even that's enough for me to say:

no girl is too good for you Zunder.
ever.

end of discussion.

 

[Zunder]

I know your personality just a bit,
and even that's enough for me to say:

no girl is too good for you Zunder.
ever.

end of discussion.

Hey ups to you mate - thanks for that.

 

[scrouds]

This thread sounds like facebook where a chick says her life sucks and her 300 closest friends all try and console her and tell her how awesome she really is.

Maybe she is more then you can reasonably expect. But don't worry, just enjoy the hell out of it.

Its like poker. Part skill, part luck. Skill doesn't mean much if you don't have any luck. Yeah maybe you can stone cold bluff a hand, but it'll be hard going. You can win on luck alone, just doun't count on it very often (i'd say most betas fall here). But if you got both, you can really get something good.

My point: If you get lucky, even if your skill isn't at that level, don't worry about just enjoy it.

 

[Powerofmindset]

As stated in this thread already...no one is better than you...especially not because one is better looking than previous women you have dated.

I went from never approaching ANY girl to approaching any girl I desire, failure or not.

I went from getting head for the first time from some fatty i met off of myspace in the backseat of my car to having a fwb (currently) with a hb8.5-9.

I went from dating a girl for 9 months who couldn't go anywhere or do anything without being faded off of some sort of drug. She could drink anyone I've ever known under the table on top of it. Now I date much more respectable women and their physical numbers range from hb7-9.

In other words...I went from not being able to talk to a woman cuz I put all women on a pedestal to not having that feeling because I see them as an equal until otherwise shown.

I can also account one story for you as well. I dated this girl from my work for about a month and after that she broke up with me. 100% puerto rican with model looks, huge tits and slender...the closest thing to a perfect 10 I've ever dated. Not only that but she loved to have sex, gave the best head I've ever had, and was all about me. I had the perfect frame in the begginning and then when we started dating the moment I thought to myself, "oh my this girl is way out of my league...I need to figure out how to keep her around!" she dropped me but not after walking all over me...and having sex with 3 other coworkers.

Confidence and seeing things in a different light will happen over time. 7 years ago when I first went on this site under another name I never in my life would have thought I'd be who I am today.

 

[Zunder]

This thread sounds like facebook where a chick says her life sucks and her 300 closest friends all try and console her and tell her how awesome she really is.

Bit harsh mate - I hardly said in my OP that "my life sucks".:nono: