OnTheWayUp
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I've been reading this site for just over 2 months now, and I'm quite frankly amazed with the effect it has had on my dating life. I've never had any problems approaching women; rather I was brought here by a nasty case of oneitis with the only girl I have ever kissed. Since starting on here, I've got more numbers and been on more dates than in my entire life! I've met girls in bars/ clubs, in my university classes, in house parties, from socials involving my band, in my dorms... and have yet to fail to get a number (sample size of 15-20). I have only been flaked on 3 times. For a guy who used to suffer badly from oneitis, I feel I've really embraced the abundance mentality advocated on here.
I now want to take my game to a new level. Girls seem to be very keen to go out with me, but less so to escalate things sexually. Of the 7 girls I've been out with in the past 3 weeks, only one has declined a second date. One even suggested we meet up again at a local jazz festival and another invited me out, so it would seem I'm doing something right! Because I don't want to fall into the trap of being "the entertaining asexual guy," I'm going to give you all a few samples of dates I've been on and see what you think I could have done better. Each of these dates was filled with as much c + f and kino as I could manage.
Girl 1: Met in dorms. Invited her out for drinks at a local bar with friends the first night I met her. Very flirty evening, got her back to mine, went for the kiss, got rejected. Went out about 10 days later to the theatre, good banter but she didn't want to go for a drink afterwards.
Girl 2: Met in a club. Went out for a drink at a local bar a few days later, chatted for 2 hours and played table football. Very receptive to kino and palmistry. She "was tired," so didn't want to come over to "watch a film" at mine afterwards. Have since tried contacting her twice to hang out again, got rejected twice with feeble excuses that "she wants to sleep" or "has to work." One for the back burner.
Girl 3: Met at an introduction event for students. Easy number close, came with me to table tennis club the same evening, then out for a drink afterwards. Unreceptive to kinoing, kept pulling away. Invited her to a party a week later, where she c-blocked me all night, lol. Strikes me as more crazy/ AW every time I meet her.
Girl 4: Met at an introduction event for students, 3 years older than me. Went out with 2 other mutual friends to play minigolf. Bumped into her alone on the high street a week later, arranged to meet for a drink. Receptive to c + f and kinoing, slightly lacking in banter. Hinted that we should go out again to local jazz festival.
How do I progress to the next (sexual) level? Or do I just need to be more patient? All advice is welcome.
OnTheWayUp
I now want to take my game to a new level. Girls seem to be very keen to go out with me, but less so to escalate things sexually. Of the 7 girls I've been out with in the past 3 weeks, only one has declined a second date. One even suggested we meet up again at a local jazz festival and another invited me out, so it would seem I'm doing something right! Because I don't want to fall into the trap of being "the entertaining asexual guy," I'm going to give you all a few samples of dates I've been on and see what you think I could have done better. Each of these dates was filled with as much c + f and kino as I could manage.
Girl 1: Met in dorms. Invited her out for drinks at a local bar with friends the first night I met her. Very flirty evening, got her back to mine, went for the kiss, got rejected. Went out about 10 days later to the theatre, good banter but she didn't want to go for a drink afterwards.
Girl 2: Met in a club. Went out for a drink at a local bar a few days later, chatted for 2 hours and played table football. Very receptive to kino and palmistry. She "was tired," so didn't want to come over to "watch a film" at mine afterwards. Have since tried contacting her twice to hang out again, got rejected twice with feeble excuses that "she wants to sleep" or "has to work." One for the back burner.
Girl 3: Met at an introduction event for students. Easy number close, came with me to table tennis club the same evening, then out for a drink afterwards. Unreceptive to kinoing, kept pulling away. Invited her to a party a week later, where she c-blocked me all night, lol. Strikes me as more crazy/ AW every time I meet her.
Girl 4: Met at an introduction event for students, 3 years older than me. Went out with 2 other mutual friends to play minigolf. Bumped into her alone on the high street a week later, arranged to meet for a drink. Receptive to c + f and kinoing, slightly lacking in banter. Hinted that we should go out again to local jazz festival.
How do I progress to the next (sexual) level? Or do I just need to be more patient? All advice is welcome.
OnTheWayUp